What should I do? Wife Cheating?

I have been married for four years now and things are good. (or so I thought). For about the past 5 months I have solid proof (overheard many late night conversations and a left open email) that my wife has been meeting guys in chat rooms and then having cyber and phone sex with them on a regular basis. Since this has happened our sex life has gone to almost zero. I have always been faithful and treat her well. I don't know why she would do this? My biggest questions are what do you think I should do? and is she "really cheating" since its all cyber and phone sex and as far as I know, no actual meetings/physical contact? What do you think I should do?

Confront her and ask her if she's doing this. Don't tell her you know. If she lies, end the marriage. If she tells the truth, get some counseling and try to work things out.

Divorce

She's definitely cheating.

Tell her to pack and go...

cheating is cheating no matter what type...if she is neglecting you and giving her time to another guy...its cheating!!! show her the email and tell her it stops now or you will kick her @ss out...

Who is she signing on as and what website. Someone on here might know her.

Jk

Put a key logger on, wait, and then confront her.

if she is hiding it from you it's cheating.

You've been letting this go on for 5 MONTHS????

My man would of chucked the computer out the window 5 MONTHS AGO!!!

It depends on your perception of cheating. I personally think it is. If you are willing to make it work, them confront her and try to fix it. If not you have every right to throw her on her ***, just keep your proof. Good luck.

Kick Her To The Curb.

Tell her your proof, and ask her plain and simple--just how would you react if i did that to you. You go Man!! Best of luck.

yes, it's cheating...!!! a few options here...

tell her to stop or it's divorce... or...

cut off the internet... or...

get rid of the computer,

or password protect it when you are not around...

but, if you are addicted to or watch any form of porn, perhaps she don't like it and this is how she is getting back at you... porn hurts women...it's cheating to us...

I don't know the whole story, these are just my suggestions...!

or perhaps she's caught you calling women "babe" or "honey" online...think about all this before you decide what to do...

and find out why she's doing this...

but, me, if my man was doing this, it would be divorce for us... so, that's the first option... but, it depends on what you believe...

I don't consider cyber and phone sex cheating. Why don't you join her?

First of all yes she is cheating...and second of all soon she will be meeting these men in person. Leave.... Do you want to live like this? Do you deserve to be treated like this? It is emtional abuse! Get rid of her!!

Time to get a lawyer

You need to tell her that you know, and if you feel you can try to work things out. I think she feels like she is not getting something from you that she is looking for, maybe time to try to reconnect

ok first of all you need to bust her out on it.ask her why shes doing it and if she wants other men tell her how you feel bout it. if you have caught her on the computer what havent you caught. its like that old saying if you see 1 bug in your house it means you have alot.weird way of putting it but i hope you get the point.

First, you need to talk to her about it. But you also have to put your foot down. This is emotional cheating, at the very least, but still cheating. Especially since she's not having sex with you. I would wonder if there isn't more going on than phone and cyber. Put your foot down and let her know this isn't acceptable and if she doesn't stop you want a separation. But, another good thing at this point would be counseling. Try to find out what got you two to this point in the first place and try to deal with it from that angle too.

Well if you can't:

a) join her
b) forgive her
c) get her to stop (considering you want her to)
d) get rid of the computer
e) do a little of your own

then you've got to confront and give the ultimatum and then follow through.

This is emotional cheating on you but not physical. I guess what you do depends upon how you feel about what she's doing. You're the only person who can decide if this is cheating on you or not.

Good Luck.

i consider any sexual contact with someone other than your spouse is cheating. i consider my husband watching porn and going to strip clubs as cheating. sorry to actually say it out loud because people think i am crazy but i do. i know it is different for everybody so tell her what you found and that it is unacceptable in your standards. if she doesn't stop you will know what to do.

Cheating is cheating when the other partner feels betrayed. So yes, she is cheating.

I believe you should confront her, communication can always fix something and make it move on, always for the better.

Tell her you know what shes doing, ask her why. Maybe from there you both can re-evaluate your marriage, change things that may need to be changed and altered for the better.

Whatever the reason is, if you ask her straight out she'll answer you ( probably not immediately or easily...but she will eventually ). Just remember not to lose your cool, think rationally, and be open minded to what she has to say, and from there discuss things with her.

Best of luck >w<

She's cheating on you!!! Even if she hasn't met anyone of these men, she is still cheating on you. You should file for a divorce, not unless you're willing to work through this. Both are hard, but I would think that staying would be harder, having to constantly worry about what she's doing, with who. I can forgive but not forget. I'd hold on to your solid proof and hand it over to an attorney.Best of luck to you, and sorry you've been screwed over.

simply confront her and see what she has to say maybe you are not satisfying her you never no

But her in the recycle bin> She will some day or have Cheated in person> Your call to much drama> S&H

Hunny, depends on what you are willing to live with, sounds like alot due to the fact you haven't confronted her yet with all the things you have found. This is cheating, she has sexual relations with others and not her husband, this is not good.
She has put you on the back burner and forgot about you. You deserve better and are worth more than see is giving you. Good Luck

Its your wife of four years man, talk to her,ask her what's happening?
Is she bored? or Is she not getting what she wants from you?
I feel she still loves you else she would have gone with any of them. Talk to her, sort out things, make your love life great, go for a vacation with her. Tell her what she did hurts you and ask her to do it to you than to anyone else.
Also ask her if she wants to step out from the relationship?

Since your sex life has gone zip, yes, she is treading dangerous ground with you. Confront her gently, ask her what's going on & why. Then demand she stop the cyber-sex sh*t immediately, if that's what you want. If she refuses, then her actions have spoken: she'd rather have sex with a computer than her husband. Kinda sad, huh?

Yes it is cheating and you can't be 100% sure that she hasn't had physical contact and at this point if she said she didn't than what she has done already would make me not trust her word. You will need to do what you think is best for you. She is a cyber whore.

If her activities have affected your relationship, it's cheating!

Tell her about it and don't forget to mention papers.

Also, forward those emails to yourself so you can use them as evidence.

First of all I'm really sorry, you seem a nice guy,. Talk to her and let her know what you found out, then get a lawyer.

First off weman arent that dumb as to leave open an email or such as. She did it on purpose. Are you sure you were being good to her? Not beating her and buying her everything she wants is not being good too her, Most men think this way, I used to till my divorce, it took that for me to really communicate with my exwife. Things are more simple than you think. The chat and cyber sex. Of course it is cheating it is a violation of morals, ethics and most of all trust, and no meetings yet it will progress to that when she gets bored with the phone/chat. If you want it to work send her some dirty email chat "oh You want this Hard cock inside your kitty kat dont you" You get the idea, If your like most guys and your ideas about treating her well goes, Turn her cell phone off.. Then talk to her about Why you did this.. treat her like a kid take her goody's away internet and so on. Then communicate Why you did it, "NO CYBER" tell her it hurts you- for her to do this to you. till you get the desired action, Be the man or someone else will, she will throw a fit at first but that is par for course, she will respond. Dont be a push over, that is why she has lost repect for you. dont be so eager to please, MAKE HER WORK FOR whatever IT MAY BE. If she doesnt respect your desires then save the emails, get her pass codes and give them to your attorney she wont get anything for cheating.

It is cheating and could lead to more(physical) down the road. I would confront her about it. Demand that she stop and seek counseling. If she refuses you have two choices divorce or do the same to her. Fair is fair after all. Best of luck to you.