Help with a girl i met online?

i met a girl a few months ago on a online chat room, and we sorta clicked shortly after we exchanged pictures so we started talking outside of that chat room (on the phone, instant messengers, etc.) and we developed strong feelings for each other, and made plans to meet in a few months (i live in the U.S., she lives in canada). it was her b-day monday and since i couldn't send her any gifts i took some new photos of my self and sent them to her.......when she looked at them she told me that i didn't look like the original picture i sent her and that i resemble her ex who treated her like a whore.....i can't see any resemblence between me and him (other than we are both human) now she doesn't want to meet me because she is afraid it won't work. i don't know what to do i want her back badly. how can i convince her to take me back? we used to be very happy and i don't see how a few pictures can change months worth of feelings, what do i do? i love this girl more than life itself

Well i think try and still talk to her and show her that you can treat her nice/wont treat her like her ex did and then hopefully you guys can still meet and take it from there cause pictures can get complicated and you could look diff when meeting up... I think you just need to talk to her about this and tell her you really like her and want to meet and see how things go from there...

I know how u feel though and dont listen to people saying it cant work cause im in the same thing and ive talked to a guy 4yrs and been dating on and off and now 1 yr dating and hopefully meeting soon but we traded pictures but we both know meeting/seeing in person will be diff than the pictures so maybe you can convince her that you should meet and then take it from there cause atleast for you then u have met her instead of wondering what if...

You cant have feelings for someone over the internet..
She probably sent you a fake picture.

Asshole.

The best way out is to go n meet her personally,and she'll surely change her mind when she meets you.

She might be a little "different" be careful. I would let her make the next move. Don't chase after her, that will make things worse...play it cool, but be nice if she calls, or e-mails you.

I think she was just making up an excuse to get rid of you.
Or...she has some issues.

All I can say is that you guys had a long distance online relationship, truly I don't believe anyone can actually have genuine feelings unless two people actually meet and converse face to face.

Sorry to hear your luck on this matter, but it does sound fishy.

tell her that you can prove her wrong, to at least try to hang out with you and let her if she wants, to brings some friends with her to make her feel more safe. go out to public places, you know stuff like that. let her do this until she feels more comfortible around you to go out alone with you but dont try to push too hard and stay friends with her if she just needs some time.

I'm really sorry your going through this but she is lyeing. She has been seeing someone else and has been trying to figure out a way to tell you and so she made up this rediculous story of her x and you looking alike so she can have an exscuse to break up without having to tell you she has been seeing this other guy.Remember ANYONE can tell you ANYTHING!!!!!!!
Good Luck,Angela

sometimes best thing is to let it all go
my opinion...
internet/long distance relationships arent the healthies or best out there theres so many things that can go wrong

and for the girl
if she compares you to her ex, that's just really messed up and shouldnt say that
that is the coldest thing anyone can say to anyone
if i was you i'd leave her... no point in going back because if you to get together chances are she's gonna be so afraid of you or gonna feel weird with you because she's gonna think of her ex-bf, =-O

you may be in love
i know it's hard 2 leave someone but this is actually your choice
stay or leave
you can still be friends and all but it's your choice to decide
good luck and i hope you make the right decicions =)

if she is traumatized from her ex thats out of your hands
but if she is bothered that you look like him then she has problems

unless you live on the American/Canadian border don't bother
long distance relationships are not worth it

move on

all you have is puppy love. You met online...duh.. It's not real. How do you even know that the pictures she sent you are really her. Don't be so desperate to hook up with someone from Canada. There should more than enough girls near you to help you get over it....Grow up and get out there.

maybe try sending new pictures... and see what she says about thoughs maybe she will feel diff about it.. tell her how much you care for her and that you wil NEver treat her badly.. and if its meant to be then it will work .. i met my boyfriend on the net and we met after like one day of talkin. lol i love him with all my heart .. *and he looks just like my brothers bestfriend and we hate each other* but if she really loves you then she will look past her fears and love you for you!
good luck hon

Maybe you need to start over. You said you clicked.
Well slow the meeting down and start the talking up again.
If you had something to begin with, maybe you can get it back.
Perhaps the meeting growing close just scared her off and didn't know how to tell you.
I've had e-mail pals for years, have never met them, I like the relationship the way it is.
When you meet in person it changes things. Sometimes the fantasy is good. Take it slow.

You like her that much, go see her personally. And then you will get to know that she's the fake piece.

You simply CANNOT fall in love with someone over the internet. Please remember that.
Well the beauty and magic of the internet is, that two people usually do 'click' instantly, followed by endless phone calls and emails. But that is not a true picture of any person. Its the person as a whole one falls for, not jus photographs. And please dont even think about giving gifts or momentos. Its too early for that.
Just dont force her into it. The best thing to do, is to try and meet personally.Give her some space and then call her again. Hopefully she will come around. Best of luck.

look for someone within your vicinity and stop been childish, okay.