HELP!!! how should i respond????

my bff didn't have a lot of friends. so i started letting her come to my youth group meeting so she could meet new people.
she started hanging around some of me and my brothers friends (all of them guys) and they got kinda mad. they asked me to tell her that they don't mind her being around, but she's around too much. so i told her [[in the nicest way i could]]] that she shouldn't hang around the guys so often. she got really mad at me and ended our friendship. [[BTW, she was very rude, and called my a *****]].

My ex-BFF turned the story around to make ME look like the bad one, and then gave MY e-mail to her friend Bree, who she hasn't even met.

Bree sent me this e-mail

( i don't have enuf room, so hold on when i add it)

Dear Morgan,
I am a friend of Desiree and would like to say u hav been a jerk 2 her. U have no control over who she is friends with and JP is my friend to. Desiree is a good friend and she's not ur friend any more because u were self centered and mean. What ur problem is is not my problem, but what u do 2 my friends is. DO-NOT-MESS-WITH-DESIREE.

Sincerly, Bree

How do i respond?
I wouldn't respond, normaly, but i don't want to look like i'm scared or something.

P.S. the question is NOT "how do i get my friend back"

it's how do i respond to the e-mail

tell this emailer the whole story, not to win her over but so she'd think twice about sending another email like that to you again or someone else....at the end, write: ps, with her as your friend, watch your back too.

Say what happened. Something along the lines of "Hey they were the ones who told me to tell you to back of with the following them around" If she is going to overreact who would you want to be friend with somone like that who you were trying to help out in the 1st place?

I wouldn't respond at all, but if you must then just tell her you were passing a message on from those guys and they are just going to end up telling her the same thing.

She'll get the message eventually, because if they don't want her around then they will surely tell her.

Now we know why she doesn't have many friends.....

If you must respond, explain that there is a misunderstanding and it got out of hand. Tell her to get facts before she threatens anybody. In the end, they don't really sound like bffs so get rid of them if they keep causing drama. Perhaps tell your brother friends about this and see what their opinion is.

tell her ***** this is none of your concern and how you feel about it

Don't respond. Be the bigger/better/smarter person. You gave her a fair warning about the situation and she over-reacted. Ending the friendship shows she takes and treats situations poorly and that she is immature. Let things play out by itself from this point on. She will realize what you warned her about is true and she will notice how she acted. If not, you probably shouldn't have such a person in your life anyway. Don't waste your time in replying to the email.

this has happened to me but not in that circumstance. I would do this: calm your self down and explain the situation to your ex-bff and bree and if they dont listen have one of the boys explin why you had told your ex-bff what you did and if you still dont get through to them then accept what you told them then accept that they are mad at you and remember that you were the one that told her to come to the youth group in the first place hope this helps.

say good and keep it moving she was not a good friend anyway, and tell Bree to take her new pet snake to the zoo. I would suggest to Bree to watch her back snakes are known to turn on people.