Muslims, try to convince me this is ok:?

I am now homeschooling, but I was once in an Islamic school in my elementary years, i think like 4 through 6th grade. It was a really good school, not everything was perfect, and not all the students were angels, but every group has bad apples.
anyhoo, I've kept track of that school even after i left it because the school was so dear to me. We used to study in the smallest classrooms, with 2 or 3 grades in one room, and there weren't many teachers either. Thsi year, the school get a new building alhamdulillah, beautiful with an gymnasium, and three floors.
the part that really erked me was that there will be a meeting held about whether the school should mix the highschool girls and boys together. I don't understand how this would be Islamic. The students that are in favor of this said that it would be better so they would be able to get used to when they go to college. Am i the only one, or does this sound stupid?

@sara:
sister, even when the boys and girls were on completely different floors and never saw eachother until after school, u should have seen the things that used ti happen! And they were seperated back then!

Bismillahi Rahmani Rahim

Salaam Alaikum wa Rahmatullah

I would think that if they were going to mix boys and girls, the absolute WORST time to do it is when they are teenagers with raging hormones. They'll be too distracted by each other and will be focusing on making sure they look good instead of working on their schoolwork. And it is a fact that when girls are in mixed classrooms, they tend to be less assertive and don't participate as much due to shyness or an unwillingness to look "geeky" to guys. It's a disservice to both the young men and the young women from an Islamic and intellectual point of view.

If they want them to "get used to" what they are going to see in college, why not encourage mini skirts, beer, and casual sex? They should be WARNED about what they are going to see in college, not given warm-up lessons, astaghfirullah.

May Allah guide the administration to see what they are doing is a mistake. InshAllah there will be concerned parents who will see that this is not a good thing to do. May Allah bless you for your hayaa' and protect you from the evils of a permissive society, Ameen.

Fi Aman Allah,

Nancy Umm Abdel Hamid

Well, I don't see too much wrong with that. We have Islamic schools in NY, and they're mixed schools.

But they set standards. And I think that's the most important thing. Even if they were bringing them together, the boys and girls should be separated for all activities like gym, lunch, prayers, and even in the classroom.

If they make those accommodations, Masha Allah things will work out well.

The idea isn't too bad, because we are faced with a society that intermingles with the different sexes and it can't always be avoided. So, they'll have a pretty good example of how to act in those situations when they don't have the guidelines to teach them.

I think it'll be a good starting point.

EDIT:

Yeah, there are always those ones who are corrupted and tend to ruin the whole uniformed system.

I would prefer it separated, but if the school had to go with that and my kids were going there, I'd probably have to make accommodations.

If I were looking at this situation at a parent's stand point, I'd definitely go with you.

As a teenage Muslim, I'd go with my primary answer.

i agree with you, what is there to get used to, come on. i go to college and nothing weird happened to me when i say boys in my class,lol.its just an excuse to mix them up.

we have an Islamic school here in USA and the boys are in a different floor

there right.... there not going to be in an Islamic environment 24/7 (meaning boys and girls around each other)...i dont like it when Islamic school try to shield students from the real world because when that actually get to it, then its a total shock. dont tell me your not going to run into the opposite gender at work, collage, the store, the mosque, parties....etc, and if you dont learn the proper way to intermingle then, you screwed. humans are social creatures...sure as you said, there are bad "apples" in every group and some will take advantage of the co-ed-ness...i have been to Islamic schools like that and some that are co-ed.... so i think i have some idea what i am talking about

Haha watch theres going to be some action, but of course this happened for a reason.
My parents were going to send me to an all girls school I argued about it and i won but of course i dont go to an islamic school i go to a public one things are way nastyer... I feel a bit guilty now.
But i apolgized to my parents. Im still not going though...eh;

Because boys and girls will be going to colleges in mixed classes, it is better that Islamic school let them sit in the same class separated in two sides of room and let them interact so they learn how Muslims boys and girls should interact with each other, what they should and what they should do interacting with each other. Teachers should teach them all such related matters to prepare them to face the mixed atomosphere of American colleges.

If girls have never dealt with boys, they wouldn't understand the normal actions of boys or woudn't understand the meanings of certain ways a boy look at a girl. A Girl who never studied in mixed classes may be too naive and may fall for the false persoanl feelings a boy expresses to an innocent girl and she may believe evey thing boy says to her and may fall for his bate.

I hope you understand what I am trying to say without being too open.