Visiting a friend you met online?

I met a friend online about 4 months ago. We've pretty much been talking every day or every other day and vibe on many different levels. Sometime in March I will have a week of vacation time and am thinking about taking a trip to go vist him for the weekend. We are both grown adults, same age range, and ambitious. We've exchanged pics and we use webcams regularly to see each other "in person" so I am feeling more comfortable. However, just tyring to get an adult opinion, if this is a good move or not? I would have my own hotel room in a major city and of course mase :) if anything were to pop off, ,but generally I am getting a good vibe from this person. I would appreciate ADULT opinions on this question. thank you

That is great. You are taking the right type of approach. You got to know him a bit first. Also, you are being cautious by getting your own hotel room.

Hope it goes well.

Do you only want to be friends, or something more?

If you only want to be friends, make sure he is well aware of this. Otherwise, you could be getting yourself into a very uncomfortable situation.

if you feel good about it and you have it planned like hotel room and you've seen each other i say why not...

dont do it trust me...my parents are cops and they know all about it and hav told me everything i know...dont do it

i would say if you decide to go then make sure you first meet in a public place like a restaurant, not at your hotel room. Also, make sure someone (a friend of yours) knows where you are staying and what hotel and everything. I think if you are getting a good vibe then go for it, but be smart about it. People can sometimes be decieving

I don't see any reason why you shouldn't go there and see him. Do not be so unsure - you may miss out on a really good thing.

The problem with your LDR that you are doing your best to overcome is that you don't have real face time with each other. And, while you can know a person to a certain extent online, it's too easy to cover things up for a chat.

Because you don't live close, when you go out there, you are at his total mercy. He can be a perfect gentleman, he could be a ravishingly sexy guy that has you itching to be in bed with him, or he could be a freak that makes you extremely uncomfortable.

You have to go with your gut, but make sure you have a good fall-back plan if things don't go well, and make sure you keep in good touch with a friend/family while you are out there, so that someone knows you are safe.

Good luck to you.

I hope it works out for you, but be aware that not all people are wanting to be your friend just for friendship. This guy might be after your personal information for fraudulent reasons, so I suggest keeping that kind of stuff hidden really well and totally inaccessible to him, credit cards, driver's license and the like. BE CAREFUL!! It may not be anything like that at all, but ask yourself this.... What if.....?
I have a friend who met his wife over the internet, so good things can and do come from it, but bad things can also.
I understand you're an adult, but adults can be taken advantage of as well as children, men and women alike. Again, I wish you all the luck in the world. Maybe taking a friend along just in case wouldn't be such a bad idea since you have never really met this person, for safety's sake. I am not trying to make you paranoid, just safe. I might be terrified to do something like this even though you already 'know' this person. You never know what can happen, good OR bad. If you take a friend, they might get in your way, but they could also save your life, it's a tough decision to make.
If you two are really compatible, he would most likely understand the friend thing. I can't make the decision for you but I can ask you to be safe, that's all I can do and hope you will take that advice.
I strongly would advise you to meet in a public place the first day and kind of 'keep him at arm's reach' in case there is something fishy about him. A background check wouldn't be a bad thing for you to have done either, just to cover the bases. Tell a friend his name, address, the name of the hotel you have a room at (and the room number), and the name of the place where you plan to meet him before you go also in case something happens (God forbid).