I've just gone and done something so silly! I feel terrible!?

OK, my dentist sent an e-mail saying I'm up for my semi-annual checkup. I thought I forwarded the e-mail to my husband because it was in Dutch and usually he has to deal with appointments etc... (I'm still trying to learn the language) and as a joke I wrote :"tell her she's a pain in the butt, I'm not going hehehehehehe." Well, instead I posted reply and sent it without knowing TO MY DENTIST and now she wrote back saying she has cancelled my registration with me! I feel terrible...I feel I should write an apology but I don't know how to begin. What would you do?

I have sent an e-mail with my apology. It's also an embarrassment for my hubby (who is angry with me) because he has her as his dentist too! I shall proceed to make arrangements to change dentists. Thank you all for your response. You've all helped me out.

Oh dear! What a faux pax! I would WRITE an actual letter, along with an email, stating the following:
Dear Dr so and so,
I just want to take a moment to explain myself a bit and to please ask for your kind understanding and forgiveness. It seems in an effort to be funny and silly with my husband, I forwarded your email to him with that comment, that was not truly meant, but simply some silliness between us. Unfortunately, in my haste, I actually sent it to you, and I cannot tell you how MORTIFIED I am to realize, my silliness has upset and offended you, something I NEVER meant to do. Please understand, I DO NOT think you are actually a PIA, it was my childish way of playing with my husband who normally makes our appointments. Can you please see your way to forgive my foolishness and see it for what it was? Just silly, and unfortunately, very inconsiderate of your feelings. I am SO SORRY!
Sincerely,

If she cannot see her way to forgive you, I believe you may have not only learned a valuable lesson, but you may realize something more important, being in a dentists chair with someone who might take something so seriously to heart might not be the one you want drilling on you. Just a thought. I think this is not that serious, but I can see how your dentist might feel insulted. If she is a true professional, she will welcome you back as a patient an forgive and forget and move on, if she does not, I would find someone else and realize I may have avoided someone who might not be a suitable doctor for me in the long run. As terrible as this must be, it is kinda funny, hopefully your dentist has a little bit of a sense of humor. Good luck!

How unfortunate! You can apologise profusely and explain it was a joke and and nothing personal to her, but purely a joke between you and your husband about how you feel about going to the dentist which she wasn't meant to see. You hope she understands it was just meant as a light-hearted joke. Say you understand if she wants to cancel your registration, but ask if she would please reconsider if she feels herself able to do so. Be prepared you may have to find another dentist, and maybe take her a peace offering if she does have you back.

You see it as silly and as a joke. Suppose the shoe were on the other foot and someone you do business with said something similar to you, not intending for you to hear it of course. It would hurt your feelings and your pride in what you do for a living.
Do issue an apology, but respect her decision to ask you to find another dentist.
Lesson learned - funny isn't always so funny when you are on the receiving end.

OMG......I really feel for you!!!
But hey....mistakes happen and she might be having a bad day anyway!
I would definately contact the surgery by way of apology and explain that the email was meant for your husband and it was a joke and apologise.It certainly could have said much worse things.
Try to get her to see the funny side of it as if you are in the UK dentists are hard to come by and if not I am sure you dont want to lose your dentist anyway.

OMG poor you...that's really one of those eeek moments.
I would get your husband to write an apology saying that you misunderstood the email and thought it was from someone else.
This is one of them moments where a lie to say hurt feeling isn't as bad as the truth where she thinks you don't like her....I mean if you did go back and she was harbouring resentment it could really get painful.

Send her a reply saying something along the lines of

Dear ..........
I am really sorry that you received my email by mistake, it was intended as a joke and I am sincerely sorry.
Please accept my apology
Yours
.................

If she accepts, she accepts, if she doesn't, well at least you have the piece of mind that you did apologise.

Tell your husband what happened and get him to phone the dentist to explain, (you say your still learning the language). Keep it lighthearted, apologise if necessary, you were being joky with your husband, not meaning to be insulting your dentist.
Lets hope they have a sense of humour and understand.

Just explain the e mail was sent to the wrong person and who it was meant to be sent to.Also explain that you sent it to your husband as you are not fully conversent with the language and thats when you added the joke part

Oops... Apologize to your dentist, sincerely that is and not via email. Try a phone call and explain that you were actually talking about "something else" and the message was meant for someone else. Also if I were you, I'd look for another dentist.

i would write her and tell her u were joking with yur husband since he handles the appointments and that u would like it if she didn't cancel yur regristration and that yur sorry. Laugh about it a little bit. I have done things like that before

i would apologize.. explain the mistake and change dentists.


if something happens that causes you pain you will always feel it was revenge motivated.. so there is no way you can ever be comfortable with her as a dentist again.

Just say you are very sorry and that it was a light hearted joke that your husband was meant to recieve. If she doesn't like it then consider it a blessing because she obviously has no sense of humour.

Whoops, i think a phone call and an explanation would help.Tell her she is only a pain as it would of been better for you if she sent it to you in English.

Wow - find a new dentist. I mean, if she pretends to accept your apology but hasn't really, then you get into the chair and she has a needle and a drill to get at you with....???

ring the dentist and explain what you did was only a joke on your husband,lets hope they see the funny side,but dont leave it too long as it will be harder to reregister you

lol - I don't mean to laugh, but it sounds like something I would do. Just write back and tell her you meant to send it to your husband and you were just joking. I'm sure she'll understand. ;-)

ah im cringing for you.
move dentists lol!!!


and that was the receptionist? she has no right to cancel your appointment with the dentist if you apologise and explain.

Forget it. Just switch dentists and forget it ever happened.. it's gonna be too embarrassing to apologize, etc etc etc...just skip the emotions and find a new dentist and start anew...

All you can do is apologise, if she accepts then fine. But if not then at least you tried.

I'd probably find a new dentist!! That IS embarrassing. I don't think I could face her after that. Kind of odd that she would cancel your registration though -she must not need patients.

you can apologize but I wouldnt go back to her just in case she holds a grudge.

you must admit it was funny so will she see the funny side im sure just send e-mail explaining you was joking with your hubby

Be honest and tell her it was a joke..hopefully she will see the funny side..but I wouldn't worry too much..I'm sure your dentist hasn't lost any sleep over it

Dread the next time you have to have a filling.

switch dentists.

Wow thats a pretty funny story! Just send sum toothpaste or sumthing to say sorry

ooooooooooohhhhhhhh get begging lol
simply explain it was a mistake and you are sorry and want to keep your appointment can she forgive u? i dnt no lol

i think you should let your husband clear the air first with her then apologise its funny though!lol

lol
damn sucks tobe y;ou

Just say you were sorry.. that you wrote this in a moment of stress and all Dutch dentists speak perfect english.. you can apologize in English and if she is not a real pain in the butt she will understand.. we are all human and none of us is perfect.. you made a mistake and you will apologize in person.. so do that.. and any mature person.. which I hope the dentist is . will understand under stress one can ''have little quirks and say something one doesn't really mean.. if you apologize she is supposed to be a professional if she doesn't want you back she is immature and ridiculous not you.... any person mature enough will rise above such a trivial matter and accept an apology if not she is immature at heart and not a great person to know socially.. and not a great loss as a dentist either .. find another one then... there are plenty in the Netherlands.. Dutch people are normally friendly and have a sense of humour .. if she can't have one after you apologized and still won't see you... go to someone who is more mature and has a sense of humour and some understanding and who can ''forgive '' a tiny trivial mishap...xxx I lived in the Netherlands for 7 years most people there are ok.. if she is narrow minded after you apologized.. go elsewhere.. Plenty of good dentists around in the Netherlands xxx