Grandma at the lingerie shower...help!?

I am having a lingerie shower being thrown by my bridesmaid. I didn't want my future MIL there, we decided to invite her anyway so she wouldn't get upset. When I talked to her a while back I mentioned that her mom would not be invited (grandma), and that it would be uncomfortable. She said that we just wouldn't mention it. Well now the invites were sent out, and she called to ask where her mother's invitation was. Well duh, she didn't get one. I e-mailed her to tell her not even my grandmas were invited, and that not only would they be uncomfortable, but I didn't think I would be able to enjoy myself either due to being uncomfortable. Thinking that was the end, she just wrote me back saying that "I thought when we talked about it, we agreed to ask my mom-my mistake. I already told her about it and she鈥檚 looking forward to it-has it marked on her calendar. So, please have her send her an invitation. She won鈥檛 feel uncomfortable; in fact, she鈥檒l enjoy it a lot!"

What do I do!?

If I were to invite her, I would be uncomfortable and I want to be able to enjoy this!

I would call the soon to be MIL and tell her your not inviting the grandma's. You may want to discuss this with your fiance as it'll probley tick her off, but I would stick to my guns. These are your showers and you shouldn't feel awkward at them. Good luck.

When I threw my cousin her lingerie shower, we invited the moms, the grandmas, the aunts, everyone, and the grandmas, hands down, were the highlight of the party! They gave some awesome lingerie, and were just as scandalous as the rest of us. We all enjoyed the party so much that the moms and grandmas have been invited to everyone elses showers since then. Grandmas aren't these little old prudes like everyone thinks....they were young once too, and did everything that you have done, and are going to do. I would just bear up and enjoy it, they'll probably be a riot.

Well, obviously back in the day grandma got married too! So if there is anything to do with sex (and there most likely will be!) it is really not a big deal! I could not imagine not having my aunt come to my bridal shower or my future MIL since they have both been sooooo good to me! Also, feelings will be hurt if they are excluded! If you aren't comfortable inviting them to your lingerie shower, then make plans to invite them to a brunch or to dinner one evening.

I just don't get why all the moms and the grandmas want to be invited to this kind of a thing. Just for the sake of being invited? Well, it looks like you are stuck, you have to invite her. At the shower, just forget they are there and enjoy yourself. I'm with you though, I don't even want my mom at mine.