Please tell me I'm overreacting...?

I'm jealous of my boyfriend's ex. Twice last year he called me by her name, and I found pictures of them in his sock drawer.

She cheated on him three times before they broke up, and yet has been e-mailing him constantly since we started dating. To make it clear, I'm not a jealous person. I know he talks to other ex-girlfriends, and I have no problems with them at all.

I found out today, though, (unintentionally) that he and this ex have been e-mailing and calling each other for the past week, with both of them talking about how much they're looking forward to seeing each other.

To give some perspective, we were long-distance for nearly a year, and I was the one who paid for all the flights and took time off of work to come see him, because he was "too busy" (he was going to college pt and not working, I was going ft and working.)

Now he's making plans to go visit her? He's absolutely wonderful the rest of the time, I love him dearly... but argh!
How can I unjealous myself?

You're overreacting. Happy? Lol, ok seriously. You're not overreacting. You have EVERY right to be upset. He called you her name, and has been calling her and emailing with her behind your back? If my girlfriend and her ex boyfriend were talking on the phone all the time, I'd have some serious suspicions about what is going on. He is going to visit her? Uhhh....ask him why he wants to see her, because there is a good possibility he wants to get back with her. Just ask him. Good luck.

YOU'RE OVER-REACTING!!

Your not overreacting and I don't think you can unjealous yourself. It's clear he still likes her.

Now you must decide if that is OK with you.

sounds like he is still into the ex sorry hon and your a re bound maybe??? you will have to figure out where u stand

Don't "unjealous" yourself, get out NOW! You are just sitting around waiting for this guy to cheat on you. Calling you her name by mistake can happen sometimes, I wouldn't think that was a big deal. If she was the only one e-mailing him then I wouldn't think that was a problem either because it could be that she heard he has a girlfriend and is jealous but the definite deal breaker is the fact that they have been communicating like this for a week and he is considering going to see her. The effort there and the effort he put into your relationship when you were long distance is enough to set me off. This is not okay. My mom always said that you are only too busy for the things you don't want to do and the people you don't want to see, you seem to fall in there somewhere. I wouldn't trust him. I would talk to him about what's going on and how you feel about him talking and making plans with her but besides that, I'd pack my bags. It really does sound like something and I'm not sure I'd wait around for him to cheat on me with her. He obviously cares for her to sit around while she cheated on him numerous times. Sorry.

Don't try to unjealous yourself. You are not over reacting. Find a guy that values you enough that he would not even think of putting you through that hell.

You are who you are and you can't unjealous yourself. I don't think he was really ready to break up with his ex quite yet if he is planning to visit her. I know you probably don't want to hear this but I don't think that you are really a top priority to this guy and you should give up and move on. You don't need that kind of thing in your life. It sounds like you are a better person than that. There are many other men out there that will appreciate you for you, and not be going to visit an ex.
Good Luck with whatever you do and God Bless.