I'm married - did I do anything wrong with this guy ?

I went on conference and met a guy who often initiated conversation, sat next to me during meals etc. We got along well and had lots in common.

On the last night the group went out and when we got back to the hotel he asked if I was tired or if I wanted to carry on talking. I am really insomniac and hate sleeping alone in strange hotel rooms, so agreed to talk.

Then he suggested that we should lie on his bed and talk, which I agreed to. I did not touch him at all despite his offer to "snuggle up" and stayed fully dressed despite his offer of a "T-shirt to sleep in".

At about 3.30am I suggested that he try to sleep as he would be tired in the morning and he said,"I am tired but I feel like I could talk to you forever." Eventually we both did fall asleep.

At the end of the conference he gave me a hug and kiss, and his business card and asked me to keep in touch.

We've E-mailed several times platonically. I'd like to stay friends with him. Is any of this wrong ?

He's also married.

You have not really done anything immoral yet. But spending the night in a hotel room with man you just met, and lying in bed with him, shows pretty poor judgment because you left yourself open to a lot of temptation, not to mention that if other people saw you going to his room, you have willingly put yourself through the rumor mill. You say your contact with this man is platonic, but it really sounds like you are perilously close to engaging in an emotional, if not physical, affair. If your husband were acting like this with another woman, even if they never had sex, would you be happy about it? Seriously, if someone told you that they had seen your husband going into a hotel room with another woman, and his explanation was, "we just laid in bed talking all night", would you believe him, or would find it easier to believe he had cheated?

I don't think you need to be racked with guilt over this, but if you are wise and you want peace and confidence in your own marriage, you will choose to not only limit contact with this other man from now on but will also not put yourself in such a questionable situation again.

Well, if I found out my husband did that I would not be happy. Even though things were kept 'friendly' and nothing really happened just the thought of my husband laying in another womans bed talking all night doesn't seem right to me. And I definitely wouldn't be thrilled with the thought of a hug or kiss and even further communication after the fact.

You can't truly believe this was the right thing to do. I say allow your husband to do the same thing to you and see if you're okay with it. Probably not. Or call his wife, explain the situation to her and see if she thinks it's okay. Bet you wouldn't do either one and that would be because you know it's wrong.