Need help...I have a situation with my husband. He wants to attend this conference, which isn't the problem.

The problem is he'll have to share the hotel expenses, along with gas to get there with another female I absolutely despise because we really can't afford this trip. I already have a problem with the amount of time he spends on the phone with this person. He really does need to go to the conference. We are low on cash, by him going he can pull several jobs out of the conference. My problem I have with him going is having to share the room with her. Am I being selfish? Regardless of how I feel about their business relationship. What about the potential jobs that can come from him attending the conference. I don't work, stay at home mom. How should I deal with this?

wow if he has to share a room with her then you sure do have every right to be upset! that is absolutely in sane to allow! I would not allow him to go if he was my man i can say that! Say Nope not without me! if hes sharing a room with her then there is more going on then hes admitting!

Under no circumstances should he share a room with another female! If he can't afford the room, then he should go to another hotel, or stay somewhere else.

Well, it's not the best arrangement but..... I've had to do the same thing and believe me... there was NO hanky panky going on unless you count the guy I fixed her up with....LOL

Tell him how you feel, thats how i work things out with my girlfriend. No you are not being selfish at all, and if he says you are be, he needs to get his priorities in order. Him staying in the same room as another woman is definitely NOT a wise decision because it puts him into a situation where he will definitely be tempted, and avoiding temptation is obviously a good thing to do and what the Bible tells us to do.

There simply isn't any possible way that he needs to share a room with this woman. That's just an excuse, and if you're buying it, you're blind. He can't use the conference's room-mate matching service to find a male roommate to share with? If I were you, I'd check this conference out, carefully. Your husband is giving you all the answers that would make you look selfish to deny him the chance to travel with and sleep with another woman. He is one prize-winning manipulator.

I'd have a problem with him sharing a room with another woman. That is wrong. You need to tell him you are not comfortable with the arrangement. He should try to find a cheaper motel/hotel to stay at, alone.

I'm with you being concerned but what are you going to do about it when he is far off in another city with this other women while you sit at home with the kids. Either you trust him not to screw her or you don't because in the end that is what it comes down to can you trust your husband to be faithful to you. If not then I would be concerned for your marriage as a whole let alone this road trip.

This is crap. He should not be sharing a room with her. If sharing is really required, go to the conference with him. Get a room with two queen beds. She can sleep in the other one. If that's not possible, do whatever it takes so he can have his own room.

"Share the room" with her? Phleese. You know damn well what will go on in this room of theirs. Look hun, a conference, how convenient. If my husband came up with an idea of sharing a room with another female, I would tell him to just stay gone. If he REALLY can't afford a hotel room for a few days, he'll just have to park at a rest stop and sleep in his car. What a loser.

i completely agree w u about being worried about the situation of him sharing a room with her. I would not want my husband doing the same thing i would feel uncomfortable about him being in a room alone w another women for the simple fact that even though i may trust him how would u know to trust her.Honestly i would probably tell him not to go however given your current financial situation it may be better in the long run to let him attend talk to him and let him know your concerns and see if he may be able to room with someone else. At the same time take a few days to think about how close their business relationship is and if there are any doubts that there relationship may be more then just that be reasonable about what u consider to be more then friends and try not to focus on petty things such business meetings and conferences however if he often works late with her but seems not to be productive u may consider that there may be something else going on. If u to have a strong bond and u know that he would never do that to u then u really have nothing to worry about. I hopes this helps u in making your decision.

You either trust him or you don't.

Sounds to me like business-wise it's a good idea. The only thing standing in the way is your insecurity.

Wow this is a big problem. you have trust issues if these issues are justified by previous occurences then you shouls ot let him go if it is all you being jealous and untrusting than you will eventually drive him to do what you fear. Money comes and goes do not worry on that matter but there is something definetly wrong in your relationship if you are worried at all. you might want to seek some counseling. But on the other hand i would never share a room with another female now that i am married just very desrespectful. i hope all work out for you.

I would NEVER let my husband share a room with another woman! Completely unacceptable...nor would he ever let me share a room with another man. Let's face it, there is something wrong if he or SHE cannot afford their own room at a cheap hotel.

honestly, them sharing a room is verrry inappropriate... does he not realize this? money's not worth your marriage, and if you dont feel that you can trust her, youre probably right

If this arrangement makes you feeling bad, he should not go.

Why don't you go too-then you can have a threesome!