Is it okay to move on (part 2)?

I think my last post was unclear. We JUST got married. We had previously been dating for about 7.5 years. I found out just before we got married that about a month before at a work conference while he was supposed to be sharing a room with a co-worker, he booked his own hotel room on the last night of the conference. He told me it was because his roomate had met a girl and asked him to get his own room. I also found out that my fiance was hanging out with a young girl at the confrence. I confronted him about all these issues and i GENUINELY believe that ultimately, nothing happened. I'm not 100% sure the real reason he booked the room...but it's clear in my mind that he obviously seriously considered the possibility of cheating. I don't know if the reason he didn't was because of me or because he just couldn't close the deal. Again, i'm sure nothing happened. I just feel betrayed that he considered it and i'm having trouble getting past it.

It's all a matter of trust. If you don't trust your husband, then you will have problems from here on out. If you want to have a long relationship, then you have to find a way to get past the problem. I would suspect, that even though you feel that nothing happened. you also feel a little bit hurt that your husband would consider someone else. It can be a terrible blow to the ego to think that your one and only might want someone else. If nothing happened, then nothing happened. Let it go at that, and move on.

if you know nothing happened then don't stress, people get tempted and i think you have been as well it what they do that is a problem. don't look for a problem that is not there.

This is all in your head.

You are making up the "truth" and you weren't even there!!!!

He told you what happenned, but you continue into dwelling in your surreal, crazy, overbearing, make-believe, jealous, insecure, inmature version of the story.

If I was him, I would run for the hills. You need some counselling for your self-steen and confidence issues.

Good luck

Well if this just happened recently, of course you will have a hard time moving past it. Especially if you think that the reason nothing happened had more to do with her saying no more than his commitment issues to you.
He would have to be showing me true remorse for me to forgive him. If he's only sorry he got caught, and not sorry that he even considered it, then how can you trust him again. Another factor for me would be how often he is out of town. If it's a lot, it would be even harder to move past.
I guess the only answer is within you. Is he really sorry and can you let this go? A lot of relationships can move past infidelity, but it is work on both parts. He has to become an open book and not keep anything from you and you have to get to the point of not needing him to be an open book after a while and trusting him again. Without trust, a relationship won't work. I think it is perfectly reasonable to want to work on it and keep the relationship since you have been together for 8 years and you just recently got married.
A lot of my decision would be based on him, and how he is reacting to this. If he sees it as the big deal that it is and is truly sorry, I would be more inclined to try to save the marriage, but if he's making it out to be not such a big deal because "nothing happened", it would be harder, if not impossible for me to forgive him.

We are all going to be attracted to other people at some point, but attraction is a far cry propositioning another woman in a hotel when you are far from home. To me that pushes this beyond a normal "temptation"

If there is no unusual text's or unknown phone numbers on his cell dont you think he might of got a number somewhere along the line, and the story of the other room sounds believable if there are no signs of cheating now I wouldnt worry, just let it go