Is my friendship of 22 years over with? How should I handle this? HELP!!

This is going to be long, but I really need your help. PLEASE!

I've been friends with this girl for 22yrs. She now lives in another state, but comes back to my hometown to visit occassionally to visit because her family is still here. About 3yrs ago, she wanted to come visit to throw a birthday party for herself with another girl who's birthday is in the same month. I knew nothing about the party until the girl who promised to buy her ticket backed out. Then my friend called me and asked would I buy her plane ticket. I didn't have the money, but told her I could put some money towards the ticket. She said forget it and didn't speak to me for 6months. When she did speak to me again, she said she was upset because since I'm supposed to be her best friend, she felt like I should come thru for her and she doesn't think I ever have. In that situation, she and the other girl wanted me to make my rent late (in a place I had just moved to) so she could come here and they would pay me back once she got here.

Now it's years later and she came here to throw her friend a baby shower. A guy was supposed to buy her ticket but he backed out. She asked me would I buy her ticket, but it was fine if I said no. Considering what happened last time, I was willing to do it until she told me the ticket was $300. I don't have money like that so I told her I couldn't do it, but I could chip in with some of her friends and mother. She said they were all broke. Obviously I was the last resort.

Somehow, she ended up coming and is here now. She's been here for 3 days and each of those 3 days, I have called her trying to see her, but she doesn't answer the phone when I call and only texts me. She says she didn't answer the phone because my number was private and she didn't check the messages I left because it uses up her minutes.

She is only talking to me thru text messages. Right now I'm ready to throw in the towel on friendship because I feel like it's over. I'm too old for these types of games. I wanted to see her before she left, but I was only off yesterday and Friday. I work weird hours and those were the only 2 days while she is here that I would be able to see her and she knows this.

Should I continue calling her everyday or just be done with it? I don't really want to call and leave a message or text her saying what I feel is going on because I know if she is mad, she doesn't care.

What should I do from here?

BTW, she feels I don't value our friendship because she feels like she would give her last to help me, but I would never ask her for $ and I would not be trying to go out of town if I didn't have the money to do so on my own.

It sounds like she just wanted your money, not your friendship. As an adult she should understand that sometimes you don't get your way. And your rent is way more important than some plane ticket that she could've just saved up for. I mean, does she want you to be homeless? I know it's hard after knowing someone for that long, but I think you should just make a clean break.

don't stop loving her but pull your love back until she understands the pain shhas caused then go from there. I wish you benefit thru it.

A friendship based on your ability to come up with money when she needs it, is not much of a true friendship. Long-lasting friendships are hard to keep because people do change, therefore you are not the same people who became best friends years ago. Don't let it eat you up, just let it go since you have already made an attempt to reconcile. Don't waste your time or emotions on someone who doesn't value your friendship as much as you do.

It sounds like she is really immature for her age. I'm really surprised it lasted that long...sorry to say, but that's not very nice of her to be acting this way. It sounds like she is just using you for money hun. She prob. moved away and the people she started hanging out with changed her for the worse. You tried to help and were unable to, personally I think it's wrong of her to keep asking for you to fund her trips back home. She's an adult and needs to grow up and take responsibility. She needs to understand you aren't made of money. She's acting like a baby. I would just ignore her and not call/text and try to forget about her and move on. When she calls next time (she will when she wants money or something) I would just tell her how you feel and you thought your friendship together meant more than how she was taking it. Hope everything works out. Good Luck hun!