Boyfriend's Whiny Mother Complaining she can't see baby??

My daughter is 5 weeks old, and it takes a lot of time and effort to take care of her. I do almost all of the work-feedings, diapers, washing bottles, preparing formula, holding her when she's fussy, getting up in the middle of the night. I rarely get more than a couple of hours of sleep at a time, and I hardly get to use the bathroom, let alone fix myself something to eat.

My boyfriend's mom has not ONCE offered to cook a meal for us, or do laundry, or even vacuum the apartment. But, she has NO PROBLEM complaining to my bf that she never gets to see the baby. According to her, it's HER BABY TOO, and she has a right to see the child at least once a week. Whatever! She can't bring her fat *** over to MY house to see her-no, we have to bring her to HER house. So, I have to drag my baby out of the house? I'm tired and can barely take care of myself...I don't have the energy to do this. Also, I don't want to. She can come to my house if she really wants to see her grandchild. But she won't do so.

I suspect she's upset because she KNOWS that she has to go through me in order to see the baby, and she knows that I don't particularly care for her. She can't control my life and it's bothering her.

How do I handle this situation as a call, cool and rational ADULT? I'd like to tell her off, but I don't think it's the mature thing to do.

I believe the reason why your boyfriend鈥檚 mother is not being helpful for you and your boyfriend is because you both had a child together out of wedlock and there are American鈥檚 (including myself) who believe that only married couples should have children and not boyfriend/girlfriend couples. After all, having children are a responsibility and not a game and I believing married couples taking children as a responsibility.

The reason why your boyfriend鈥檚 mother is not being helpful is most likely because she does not like the idea that you had a child out of wedlock with her son and you both are not even married and you both are not taking responsibility for her granddaughter the ways in which she believes you should be a mother to your daughter. After all, any lady can say that she is a mom but IT TAKES A WOMAN TO BE A MOTHER. I do agree with the boyfriend鈥檚 mother when she believes it鈥檚 her baby too. After all, she is the grandmother of the daughter of your boyfriend.

Now what is the best way to handle this situation? I believe you need to show your mother鈥檚 boyfriend that you are fit to be a Mother and Not a Mom. After all, you did have a child out of wedlock and born into sin and your boyfriend鈥檚 mother probably does not like the idea of having a granddaughter born out of wedlock and besides, it is wrong for grandparents to have to raise their grandchildren. It is Parents responsibility to raise their children and not the grandparent鈥檚 responsibility. You need to start showing your boyfriends mother some courtesy and respect and prove to her that you can be a responsible mother and not just a mom. If you do not show her respect and prove to her that you can be a mother she will not help you out until you prove to her that you are fit to be a mother to her granddaughter.

First off, I am wondering why in the world would you have a child with your boyfriend when you do not have a strong relationship with her mother? After all, you are not married and you had a child born with parents who are not married to each other.

The reason I am guessing your boyfriends mother is not helping you is because she does not trust you and is not fond of you and having a child with her son since you two are not married to each other. What made you want to have a child with your boyfriend when you do not have any fondness for his mother and have a boyfriend that does not care for helping your daughter? After all, bringing children into the world is a huge responsibility and until you show your boyfriends mother that you two can work together to raise your child, she is most likely not going to want to help you.

I believe if you want your boyfriends mother to assist you, you need to start treating her with respect and treat her how you would like to be treated. If you are going to treat her unkindly, then she will do the same.and not assist you.