Leaving my daughter for the first time?

Tomorrow I have to leave my daughter with sister in law for almost 8 hours..i am dreading it..but my question is..if you were watching someones child for the first time would you be annoyed if the parent kept calling the whole time you were with their child? I completely trust her its just i don't know how I will handle my baby not being with me..did you cry the first time?..I am crying just thinking about it...my hormones must still be out of whack..anyway how did you deal with it? Thanks.

I wouldn't be annoyed if if i was the babysitter. If its your first time, you SIL should understand.

My first time was the day we moved. My daughter was 7 months old. I dropped her off at 8am and couldn't pick her up till about 8pm that night. I was fine from 8am to around 4 cause we were busy packing, moving, cleaning, etc, but then we stopped, (had to wait for the keys for the new house) couldn't think of anything buy my daughter, i was missing her horribly. Thankfully my hubby still left the phone connected and phone my mom. But couldn't again till i picked her up at 8 that night.

Just, what ever you are doing tomorrow, keep yourself very busy. Call maybe every 2/3 hours. But if you keep yourself very busy, the 8 hours will fly.

Honestly, I think we all have been through that and it is very hard. My baby is 15 months and we've only left her with my in-laws and my niece a couple of times.
I didn't cry, the first time I left her was only for two hours to go to the gym and my MIL kept her.
To be honest, yes it would be annoying to keep calling the whole time. Once or twice would be okay, and obviously make sure she has a number where she can reach you. If you constantly call she will think you don't trust her and won't want to babysit again.
Good luck! I'd like to say it gets easier, but I still find it hard, maybe even harder now that she is old enough to be aware that we aren't there.

I would probably do the same! Call all the time to check on the baby. I havent been away from my daughter yet, but if you do want to call and check up on her i would suggest telling your sister-in-law that its not that you dont trust her your just nervous being away from your baby for the first time and its more to ease your mind because you miss her so much!

When I left my baby for the first time, it was so awful for me, I called every hour and returned 2 hours earlier than planned. I cried every time I thought about her at home. But...you know you can't be around them every moment forever, so eventually (unfortunately) we all have to grin and bear it. I think your SIL would find it amusing like my family did, especially if she has kids and has been there. They only found it annoying if my baby had finally fallen asleep and the phone woke her up!

The first time I left my daughter she was two weeks old and I was going a mile down the road to go grocery shopping and she was with my husband and I still cried. It's normal and the second time you call your sister in law just say I trust you but I am having a hard time handling being away from the baby and I'm sure she'll understand!

I left my daughter for the first time last week to return to work and YES I cried like a baby all day...my heart was broken. I keep lots of pics of her all over my desk and phone and it helps me get through the day. She is cared for mostly by my sister in the afternoons and she doesn't mind one bit that I call constantly to check on her...she wouldn't be caring for her if she had a problem with it.

How old is your baby? I was pretty anxious the first time I left my baby (with my MIL). My husband and I went to see Juno and I was bawling at the end (more because i missed my baby than anything else). it's totally normal. it gets easier. the first time i left my baby at the gym's babysitting service, i really cried. that was embarrassing. call your SIL as often as you want. she may be annoyed but she'll understand if she's a mother.

I haven't left my child yet but I have watched my friends son. It was hard and she called a lot but it didn't bother me. She was having a hard time and I wanted her to know everything was ok. Just let your SIL know that you are sad to be leaving and may call a lot. I am sure she wont have a problem.

i've been back to work for over 4 wks now, and still call my mom 3x a day to see how my little girl's doing. she understands. i also chat about things with her a bit.

i cried more in anticipation of going back to work than the first day back--though there were a few tears.

I bet your SIL will def understand. Probably every mom does that the first time if not the first few times. Think of it as socializing your baby and it is good for her. It will make it a little easier on you.

if your daughter is quite young still, I totally agree that your hormones would still be out of whack, mine didn't settle down until my son was 6mths old.

I've babysat for parents who liked to call and check in on their children, it can be mildly annoying yes...increasingly so if its very regular. It may even make it difficult for her to care for your child if she has to answer the phone all the time. Also, if she's trying to care for your daughter while you call, and you keep hearing her crying it isn't going to make you feel any better, right? cuz then you'll want to rush to her aid.

I suggest calling at regular intervals. 8hrs is a long time for both you and the little girl...its a shame that it has to be so long the first time...its usually a better idea to leave them with family or sitters for short times at first, and then gradually lengthen it. Call her during feeding and nap times, if she's still small and doesn't have a real schedule yet, check in when you suspect she may be wanting a major nap or meal..or if she does have a regular schedule, call during those times to make sure she is doing alright.

If she is following her routine, and you are both secure in that fact, then you can both rest comfortable for the day/night that you are apart, it'll be easier on both of you, as well as your poor sister-in-law who gets to deal with a rightfully protective mommy! :). Another thing about calling at these times, is that if your daughter is very fussy and wants a major meal or nap, when you happen to call, thinking this may be the case...it may be easier for the sitter to have assurance of what the child wants.

Its the first time she's away from you, I'm pretty sure that if your sister-in-law is kind and caring, she will understand and put you at ease each time you call. :)

good luck, and enjoy the few moments of independence from the little one while you can! :)

well i had to leave my daughter with my sister for 2 days and 2 nights when she was 3 WEEKS old...b/c i had the flu...and i did cry lol and after calling my sister for about the 3rd time in 2 hours...she said "Rachel...shes fine...go take a nap!" haha were very close so i trust her and said "ok...ill call once an hour from now on" lol but now that shes five months almost...im completely fine with her going and spending the night with my mom or my sister. ONLY my mom and my sister haha and im sure it helps that they live literally five minutes away..but i think it might have been a good thing to happen early on. Her pedi. actually told me that its a good idea for maybe one night a week send her to stay with my mom(or sister) b/c it helps us moms get a little break and get "recharged" lol and it helps the baby bond with her/his family. But youll be fine sweety and so will she! Youll miss her like crazy but dont worry...she will probably just be eating, napping, and playing and cooing! Just relax honey and enjoy the little break!