Have I reason to be hurt?

MYself and partner gave smoking up three years ago.Today we went to lunch and he came back from the toilet and I smelt smoke on him.I confronted him about if he was smoking again and he went off the handle and called me stupid and a idiot.I had it out with him then he admitted to me he had been smoking.Why do they go off at one for being truthful in telling them that it is quite obvious that you can smell the smoke if you are a non smoker.How would you handle being told off when you knew he had been smoking again.

He may be too confident that he wouldn't get caught. The confrontation may be a shock for him.. The reason he reacted that way is due to guilt. His thick ego doesn't want him to lose. He called you those to change the direction of the quarrel but realized too late that he made a mistake because he didn't have time to make up excuses...

What most people fail to recognize is that nicotine is a strong DRUG. Like any drug addiction, a smoker who quits then slips takes on all the personality of a slipping addict. They will lie, deny, and show hostility when they are confronted....it's a typical reaction when they are caught out. Your partner was trying to convince you that he was "clean" in order to hide the fact that he had slipped...in other words he was protecting his habit. There is a lot of shame attached to this for him. Wipe the slate clean and talk to him. Tell him that you're there for him and will support him getting back on the wagon again. Approach this like any addiction...with support and understanding, because afterall that is what it is....an addiction. His lies and hostility are simply a symptom of it.....don't take it personally. Take the understanding approach. Much luck! :)

To be honest, he's probably feeling slightly ashamed with himself at not being able to quit properly, and he may also felt like he's let you down by smoking, whether it was just this one-off or if he might start again. Whatever the case, he's probably only shouted at you for these reasons. Just tell him you're disappointed in him, but that it's his life and you can't control it if he really wants to start smoking again. If he keeps being aggressive with you on the subject, however, don't take his nonsense - and yell back louder!
Good luck x

i think he angry because he doesnt want to quite as much as you do and is angry cause he has to hide it now ... because you dont want to ... my freind when i was on vacation got angry at her fiance for making her quite when she didnt want to ... i thought it wasnt fair to get angry but then she had agreed to do it ... it might be that he still wants to but doesnt want to tempt you and agreed .... to let you getstarted .......i would be upset he was rather mean to you .... that was uncalled for but i dont know how you reated either though .

I would wonder what else he is lying to me about, thinking he can get away with it. I would be pissed. And I would let him know very specifically that I was not gonna stand around and watch him die of lung cancer and i wasn't going to put myself at risk from second hand smoke either.

Sometimes people get mad. Including women, I'm sure he is sorry for getting mad.

well ge got busted..so its fight or flight with ppl and he chose to fight.......and then im sure he felt bad...i would talk to him about why he felt he had to lie?and keep it secret?communication