Is this called stealing? How would you handle it?

I had some of my stuff at my gf's house getting ready to move in. I bought an xBox for everyone. She has three kids and i have one boy.
One of her children age 13 sold the xbox to a kid at school without me knowing about it until i was looking for it. He sold the system, 4 controllers and a few games for $50.
He wanted money to start out with getting a nintendo wii, which his mother bought a day later using part of that $50. His mother knew about they system going to sell about five mins before the kid came to the house.
I asked how come she didn't stop him and ask him why he was going to do that without talking to everyone about it.
She didn't think it was a big deal. Like it was for the family so he sold it to get a nintendo wii "for the family".
She didn't even discipline over the thing. Other things in the past kinda irritated me was that the same boy took my 2 cases of 300+ dvd's without even asking and was gone for awhile and he denied it. what do i do to handle this?

She thought it was ok for him to take the dvds because i got them back after a long time. even though i kept asking where are my dvds and everyone said they didn't know.
its not about the xbox or dvds or anything like that. its about the fact that she thinks its ok and then her kids think that way. so does that make it ok for everyone to take things without asking?
I can't go into best buy and "borrow a 50" tv" and take it home and when i get caught, tell the police...hey you can have it back. there now you have it back i won't get into trouble. case closed...right??? i don't think so. but what do you all think?

You need to get out of their and away from her. She and her kids have a total disregard for what is right and wrong. She and her kids are headed for REAL HARD TIMES.
GET OUT ASAP

It is a gift if "it is for everyone". Not stealing in the legal sense of the word.

Is this GF going to be your wife in the future. If so, get used to it brother.

Respectfully,
Judobigdog

realistically, your screwed.

I hope you learned from this

This is at best a civil matter. You could try small claims court.

I'm going to be honest with you, if she doesn't see anything wrong with that, then she never will. My sister married a guy who had 3 kids while she had 3. His kids were always second class citizens in that household. If her kids did something, his got the blame. He just couldn't win. You really need to sit down with her, have a heart to heart, share your concerns with her and if she is willing to work on them, great. If she isn't, you may want to rethink moving in just yet.

Good luck.
Edit to answer your question: If it were my child, the system would never have been sold to begin with. I would have made him wait until you got home to discuss it. If he had done it behind my back, his backside would be sore and there would be no way in hell he'd be permitted to play the new gaming system for quite some time. As for the CD's....I would have made sure you got them back the first time you asked for them. The problem with the kids today is the parents want to be their friends and don't want to discipline. There is plenty of time to be friends once they are grown. When they are under 18, they have enough friends, they need a parent. Someone to show them right from wrong.

Personally, I would get out of the whole situation because it was stupid of her son to sell it all for just $50, and it was really pathetic of her to not do anything about it, and think you were ok with it!
I wouldn't bother with police or anything because it would start up a whole court case and all that, I'd just leave.

You need to get a clue, buddy.

She's going to protect her 'kids' and you'll end up on the sh itty end of the stick every time.

I've been down the same road, and after 2 years, I finally figured out I would never win.

Cut your losses and get out..... F A S T !! Nothing good will come out of this relationship.

Man to man: get the heck out of there before she starts sneaking off money from your wallet, or your credit card, or your checkbook...

The last thing you want is that sinking feeling of "Oh, damn. My credit card is missing. And I know why."

Get the hell out of there.

Well, here is the deal. Even though you bought it for the "Family", no 13 year old has the right to sell it or make any kind of decision without adult input. She gave him permission to sell it. So he is off the hook. Your problem is with her. You should pause and think long and hard about whether you want to live with or marry someone who feels so differently about things than you do. Usually that is a warning sign. Also, with the dvds, it seems like she may be siding with her kids against an outsider (hey, that would be YOU). That is what you have to consider when you marry someone with kids. There is always that chance. Working in Law Enforcement, I broke up many domestic disputes involving two adults with step children in the middle. Good Luck!

You need to sit your girlfriend down and explain to her that what her son did is a felony. You need to tell her from now on he is only allowed to touch your things with your permission and her supervision. You also need to have her son pay you back for the xbox and tell him if he does that again, you're calling the police. And as for the dvds tell her son that lying just makes things worse and he's just digging deeper by making up more lies.

Yes it is called stealing. The problem is it's a moral issue that she apparently doesn't understand, and you will not be able to teach her or her children to respect your property.

I was in a very similar situation that eventually cost me a brand new house, cars, and every single item of my personal property I ever owned in my life. Yes, her and her children stole absolutely everything from me, and I eventually lost a lawsuit and $6,000.00 attorney fees fighting the whole thing in court.

If you genuinely feel that these people don't respect you, then I suggest you cut your losses and get out before it gets much worse. Go with your gut feeling about how you are being treated and trust that they aren't going to change for you. I know it's a very difficult decision to make, but take it from me, you will be much better off getting out now. I hope this helps a little.

i'd learn to pick better people to date.
your girlfriend should have been the one to say "no, don't take that to school, it's not yours", not just let things slide. it just shows that she isn't very responsible and obviously very passive.

and you can't do much to handle it, since you bought it for "everyone", and it's not stealing since he took it from his own home? you just need to learn who you could trust, i guess.