How do I handle the ex-boyfriend issue?

I have an ex-boyfriend from many years ago who I have always remained friends with, even though we live far apart now. I do believe he still has feelings for me on some level (even though he has been seeing someone for a couple of years now.) I recently got engaged, and when he found out about it (through facebook) he was hurt that it hadn't warrented a phone call to him. He and my fiance have met once, and the experience was friendly, but a little awkward. I don't think he should be invited to the wedding for the sake of everyone's sanity. Is there a way I can handle this without him feeling snubbed?

I agree with Ashleigh. I dated my ex for six years and my family is still close with him, and I still chat with him on occasion. But even if we were still close friends, my boyfriend would be hurt if I invited him or his family (who I was very close with) to our wedding. It would just be weird and uncomfortable for all three of us. Just be honest with him, and if he is really a good friend, he will understand.

Good luck!

Unless you are feeling guilty, what would be the reason he can't come to the wedding. You said yourself that you and him still are good friends. Don't react this way just b/c you think he has feelings for you, if he does it's flattering but there is nothing you can do about it. You love another man and he is gonna have to adjust to this. Is there possibly some underlying feelings you have for your "friend"

I would tell him that you are having a small ceremony with very close friends and family only (or just family). Then say that maybe you could get together after the wedding to celebrate. That is what I had to do because my ex hates my FI. Good luck!

Just invite him but ask an older brother or cousin or whoever to just keep an eye on him if ur nervous.

Well, he will feel snubbed anyway way you do this. It's always hard to remain friends with an ex. That's why they say to break all ties to an ex so these problems wont happen.

Yet it's still a current problem. You may just have to bit the bullet on this one. He'll get upset if he's not invited, but it would be odd if your ex was at your wedding.

How serious was your relationship with your ex? It's great you two ended on good terms. But he should have no place at your wedding. That's just odd. How would you feel if your fiance had his ex there or even as friend? You will just have to come out and tell him even if it's blunt, there will always be hurt feelings especially if your still in contact with your ex..

If this was me, i break all ties, end communication and live happy in my new life. To me having an ex as a friend is just unnecessary drama added to my life.

Good luck!