Why does wife demand honesty when she can't handle the truth?

Ever since I started dating, I found women to be tricky and manipulative. They demand 100% honesty, but they cannot handle the truth or they simply don't believe it.

My wife asked me if I love her more if she has bigger boobs.
I said no (I happened to be a butt and leg man, I have to have small round butt) What did she say? She says I am lying.

Then she asked me if I want a threesome. (Please honey, tell me the truth, I won't be mad.)
I said. maybe I fantasize about it when I was younger, but not now. (I was telling the truth) But what did she say, she says I am lying.

Last night, she asked me if I think she should lose some weight.
I said :" No, honey, you are perfect the way you are. but if you feel you need to tone it up a little, then go ahead."
She got super mad at me, and call me shallow, and I get to sleep in the other room.

Why does my wife do this crap, if she doesn't believe me, why bother asking me.

My Wife is the same way.
I suppose all Women are.

BUT:
The truth is our friend...it's vital to a successful life.....it's not always pretty.

Best advice:
Flatter your Wife as often as you can.
If she wants the truth then tell her as much as you think she can stand.
Never expect what a Man calls "Sanity" from a Woman.
Be kind when possible.
Never tell her a lie, but never tell her the "Whole" truth when you know she is fishing for reasons to be hurt (Women do that).

Rule of thumb example:
If she has a booger hanging out of her nose tell her before somebody else does.
She may hate you for it....but she will hate you worse if somebody else spots the booger and tells her in a public place and embarrases her.

Good Luck.

It seems like your wife is very insecure about something especially her body! As long as you are speaking the truth then u got nothing to worry about! If next time she asks u this lame questions again just tell her, "Honey, I am not going to get into this again. Why do u care about what I think when u don't even believe me when I tell you the truth?!" Its obvious she wanted to believe what she thinks but not what you say! Tell her to get over herself!

You need to learn how to talk to your wife. Us women are so critical of ourselves and I know that can be a real turn off. Next time she ask you about her body just tell her you love her exactly the way that she is and will continue loving her through out the years. When she ask about a threesome state why would I need another woman when you are enough woman for me.

Some women do this because they want to hear what they want to hear. You need to tell her that when she asks you something that you ARE being honest with her and she needs to stop telling you that you are lying. If she continues with it, then maybe she is the on that is lying about something to you!!!! Good Luck!!!

Sounds like to me she has some insecurities going on, sit down and talk to her. When she does that to you tell her it's all in her head and if she doesn't believe you your right she shouldn't ask. Not all women are tricky and manipulative though.

HAHAHH. I hear you. I probably do that to my man too. Next time just say, "What is the right answer? Why don't you tell me? Because everytime I am honest with you, you're not happy. So you tell me what you want to hear."

Because she is stupid and she wants you to figure out on your own that Honesty to a woman with that many deep-seated self esteem issues means lie to me and tell me what you know I want to hear or I will make your life hell with my mental problems.

My question for you is, why do you tolerate being told you are a liar? If my wife called me a liar, it would be HER sleeping on the couch, that's for sure! Give yourself permission to get angry at being insulted.

Because you keep answering and she loves the little drama.
A spine would be useful, because with one, you can just refuse to answer or play into her crappy little mind game.

I'm glad my wife doesn't get mad like this. I never lie about this stuff and she always accepts what I say. I have yet to spend a night in another room (and will never) in 11 years.

She's looking for validation in herself that she's expecting you to fulfill--it's unrealistic of her. She has some self-esteem issues.

Ha Ha Ha your questions gave me a chuckle, and you did make a point...I am still laughing....even though I am unable to answer it. It is a case where, you are dam if you do and dam if you don't. LOL!

Women are so complicated. I don't even understand myself most days. We don't know what we want. She does sound insecure though and wants to please you in any way possible.

How about them cowgirls! Give her the truth!

Welcome to marriage, my dear.

ROTFL!!

She has self- esteem issues

that is funny!!! I think you gave great answers. When I ask my husband if something makes my butt look fat he says "do I look stupid? of course it doesn't!" and we laugh!

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Holy crow. Tell the woman what it is about her that you find irresistible instead of waiting like some muddy rock while she racks her brains trying to get you to show some life. Volunteer to sneak up behind her, bury your nose in her hair and tell her lovingly that her hair is so soft and it smells so sweet. Volunteer that her high heels make her legs look so shapely 鈥?and would she please wear stockings with a seam up the back 鈥?especially with that short black skirt that makes her butt look soooooo pinch-able鈥?br>
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Why do you allow her to treat you the way she does? Asking you asinine questions & then calling you a liar. Honey, come on, she is showing you ZERO respect. Sounds like she is just TRYING to start fights with you and making it YOUR fault. Next time she asks you a question, simply tell her "I will not answer your meaningless questions anymore. You don't take what I say to be the truth, when it indeed is. I will not play these silly games with you any longer." See what she has to say to that.

Good luck darlin'..you are a patient man for putting up with that type of behavior.

Here's what you do. From now on, when your wife asks you a question you know is a set up for failure, you turn to her, hold her hand and say, 'Honey, I love you for you. I didn't fall for you because of your boobs, your weight, your hair, your feet or your fingernails. I fell in love with you because you are (enter personality traits here) funny, sweet, caring, adorable and absolutely beautiful. Those body parts are just the cherry on my sweet cake. I love you.'
Trust me, you say something like this to her and you'll be getting laid every night for a year.
Right now she is insecure. Women feel this every single day. It's crazy but it's true. Every so often (don't over-do it), beat her to the punch. Just walk behind her and kiss the back of her neck. Maybe one night when she's washing dishes or something menial like that just softly whisper 'You are so sexy'. Even if you don't especially feel it, just say something sweet to her. It boosts her morale and makes her feel worthy for her man.
If she continues down the path of incessant questions that end up badly, suggest marital therapy so you can work out any issues with her in a supportive manner. She may have had a traumatic past that makes her feel self-loathing.
Good luck to you and try the nice comments first! :)

Your honesty is very kind...........I congradulate you on that!!

I have no idea why she asks you these questions. I was married 3 times, and don't think I ever asked any of them questions lke this.
She sounds like she's very insecure with herself. Maybe she sits and watches porn all day while your at work!! Her questions have to do with naked bodies!

Tell her you need to know where her questions are coming from........what is causeing her to be so insecure or obsessed with "bodies". Tell her, she can be the one who sleeps in the other room, if she CAN'T start being the one who needs to be honest.

Tell her that you are sorry she feels that way, but you resent being called a liar, that you know how you feel, and she can not, because she is not inside your head.

Then find a marriage counselor, because she has serious self-esteem issues, and is trying to manipulate you into complimenting her. You can't fix her self-esteem. Only she can. But she has to WANT to. And you need to support her, by also going to counseling with her. She is your wife, so HER problem is YOUR problem also.

If she doesn't do something about this - it will lead to some really serious grief later!

This is so true...

I think a part of her must be grateful and flattered because of what you've said, but a much bigger part is going "what is he on about? look at the media -- big boobs, skinniness, and extra people are IN".

That's what we're all fed down our throats and someone could say otherwise, analysed by three thousand lie detectors that insist they're telling the truth, but a huge part of us will battle and say that they're WRONG.

You only have to look at celebrities these days to *think* that anyone that doesn't look like a plastic prostitute is an outcast.

It's stupid. But if she's REALLY getting upset and angry maybe she's a little insecure -- tell her you're telling the truth, and it's a shame she doesn't believe you, because you're her HUSBAND, for crying out loud. There should be some trust there.

Good luck hun x

Ooooohhhh..... Darling, that is secret woman speak. Allow me to translate.

Would you like me better if I had bigger boobs? Translates to an insecurity about the perkiness of her breasts. It also means that you are not paying them enough attention in bed. A comment or two about how hot and sexy you think her breasts are WHILE you are giving them attention will do wonders.

Do you want a threesome? Translates to an insecurity about her ability to satisfy you in bed. Your answer was exactly what I, personally, would like to hear. Anyway, you have probably fallen into the rut that most guys do in bed. If it works, keep doing it.... however, women want a change every now and again. I was never happier in my life than when my straight laced, proper husband who only likes it missionary in the bed all of a sudden pounced on me and screwed me on the living room floor. I was glowing long after the rug burns faded.

And last, ye old question... Am I fat? You started out your answer perfect, but you screwed it up in the end. You are supposed to say, "I like you the way you are." but then you are supposed to follow that up with a hug and a sexy squeeze.

She's not doing a very good job of it, but she is trying to drop hints that she is not happy with her body, nor her sex life. I recommend sending her to a spa, get a mani pedi, get a makeover (hair and make up) and let her buy a hot new dress. Then, take her out to a nice dinner "so you can show her off" and pamper her and flirt with her like you would if it were the first time you met her. Then take her home and make love in an unusual place/position. For real. It's what I wish my husband would do. Instead, he won't flirt, he won't hold hands in public.... Oh well. I'm conservative by nature (not in my head, but outwardly) so it works for us.