Why cant i get over break ups very well?

ok i am 37 yrs. old, never been married, i have had lots of men in my life and its like everything is going fine but then for some reason it goes down hill and i am always wondering why. what did i do wrong? I CAN NEVER FIGURE IT OUT. I am to good for them thats what it is. i am always there when they need me or something. i drop everything for them. i guess i am to easy right? isnt that what they call it, when its not a challenge or hard to get they dont want ya. So anyways my boyfriend and i of 4 yrs. just split up. i want to die all my so called friends in my life have betrayed me and slept with my past boyfriends and now the only girlfriend i allowed myself to have has slept with this one and i still stayed with him. now i have no one and i am all alone and want to just die only reason i dont off myself is because of my daughter. My mother died when i was 12 and someone once said thats why you cant handle breakups. its a fear of being left alone again just like that. please help!!!

I understand completely what you're going through. I have also recently ended a very important relationship in my life, I'd consider it my first love and I'm 36. I honestly believe that for me it is a matter of abandonment and fear of being alone. I'm currently reading From Abandonment to Recovery. So far it's an excellent read and has helped me heal my heart. I highly recommend it. Even though you feel like there is no hope at the end of the tunnel, there is! I promise. To get there however you must work on yourself and your relationship with yourself. You need to make yourself and your daughter number one and never let anyone else come between you. Never make a man a priority. It's not an easy road to travel but it is worth it, because YOU and your daughter are worth it!

First of all you need better friends thats for sure,friends do not do those things.The next thing you need to do is be happy with yourself,happiness only comes from within you not from outside you,life isn't fair & you need to except that but you also need to love yourself & be happy with who you are otherwise its going to be difficult to get yourself out of this funk that your in & you really need to do it for your daughters sake,she needs you more then anything in the world & you need to be there for her,don't let people dictate your happiness,people don't make you happy you do,not even your child will make you happy,you need to do it yourself.
You have a mountain to climb with your mother passing at such a young age & not having someone to talk to like a mother is sad,but you need to let it out & you need to vent to release all that frustration & disappointment so you can move on & know that we are all here for a reason & yours right now is your daughter.
I'm 37 myself & recently heart broken but I do have friends & family who will listen to me rant & whine about my pain,you need the same,weather you see a therapist or friends,you do need to let it all out to get past this,nothing is easy especially a broken heart & depression,its a wicked battle but you need to fight through it & come out on top,you need to beat this thing & you'll become a better person & mother after you win.

I'll be praying for you