My son keeps missing curfew?

my son turned 15 about 4 months ago, and hes missed curfew quite a few times since then, (approx. 3 times a week) ive taken his driving permit(legal in NE at 15) ive tried grounding him, but when he was grounded he snuck out, i found that out from my neighbors who saw him, ive tried talking to him and he always says hes sorry and it wont happen again, then it does the next time hes out with friends, before school got out he was walking home with friends every day and 2 or 3 of the days i had to call him when it was time for dinner, then were even a few times i called him and he said hed be home in say 20min. and i had to drive down and pick his lying *** up about an hour after that, and when i got mad at him he acted as though i was being unfair. but im just sick of it, and this morning a cop brought him home at about 4:00, because hed snuck out and was causing trouble. how would you handle it? any advice would help, thanks a lot.

hes also had a problem with lying to me about what hes been doing, and where he is, if anyone has any suggestions on how to handle that and get straight answers id really appriciate it.

It sounds like he is looking for attention and sometimes teens dont care if that attention is positive or negitive. Try and have a talk with him to see whats behind his behaviors. Sometimes a long car ride works because you are sitting next to each other, and you dont have to make eye contact because you are driving. It makes it easier for the teen to say stuff they normally wouldnt feel comfotable saying. Sounds weird but it works, also works with yard work or anything you can do side by side. It might also help for your son to get a job in whatever he is interested in. It will keep him busy, teach him responsibility and make him earn privileges. It might also distract him from these friends he is getting into trouble with. We changed our daughters school to get her away from these kind of friends. It was hard but we found our way. You are the parent so you can negotiate rules and even discipline. Make sure you law down the law and then stick to what laws you set. Good luck, a parent of a teen:)

As odd as it sounds..you can go to the police and get an ankle tracker or them get put on house arrest. Usually they are willing to help if you tell them he is defying you and you dont know what else to do.Sometimes they will just put them on probation,but usually thats enough of a scare.

Sounds like it's time to get tough... Start sleeping in his room, don't let him leave your side. No more freedom, if he goes somewhere you take him and pick him up. If needed stay there with him. Once he sees you're serious about it then maybe he'll become a bit more responsible. Until he does he wouldn't be doing anything without his new sidekick right beside him!!

i agree, talk to the police, even if they have to stick him in juvi, at least he will learn.
kids need to have some kind of fear of those in charge of him, ie: their parents, and he obviously thinks he can walk all over you....but not on the cops.

If his curfew is at 11, and he's not home, lock the doors. Better yet, sleep in his room on nights he might sneak out that way you can be alerted if he tries to leave.

i would just roll a sleeping bag out on his bedroom floor and sleep there until he can act his age and start being more responsible, it wont take long, if you cramp his style enough

You know the rightest thing to do is usually the most difficult. You had a chance to talk to the cop that dropped him off. Sometimes a police officer will give you some pretty good advice or at least tell your son some of the things that could happen to him on the streets at night.
It's a lot easier to give advice then to actually put it into action. Go to your local police station and talk to one of them and see what kind of programs they have for parents and/ or kids in this situation. Also, go to your sons school and talk to his teachers find out whats going on with him there and talk to the counselor to see if there is anything they have to help or perhaps some insight to whatsgoing on with him.
Buy a bolt lock for your doors that need a key from the inside and outside to get in or out,,, yeah lock that thing as soon as he is inside and there are special locks for windows that will emit a sound when a window is open. ( locks run about $10 each at Walmart, the window things I have seen there but do not remember what they run.) But, please don't lock up yourself so well that you can't get out of it in an emergency.
If you have insurance that will provide counseling for your son please take him. Teens have a lot of pressures on them and temptations as well as other things he may be dealing with. He may need to talk to you or someone else, unfortunately sometimes we prefer to talk to stranger instead of loved ones. Best wishes.
Light & Love,

I was your kid at one point in my life. I did it from the age of 13 to 18 when I moved out on my own. I am now 21. The best way to handle this is how I had to. My dad tried everything to keep me in at night from screwing my windows closed to sleeping in the living room, etc, etc. When I got caught by the 5-0 I had to pay my own fines, and yes you can do that. Community service. After a while it kind of broke me, but not enough. I ended up in corrections a few times as a minor and that put me on the strait and narrow. Some times it just takes that to do it. My brother also had to go threw the same thing. Sleeping on his floor won't stop it in the long run, it will just make him rebel more after you stop doing it, or even while you are doing it.
Try taking away his privileges, and belongings, then try harder punishments. But in the end he might just have to learn his own way with tough love.

Hope all works out for u

your son sounds out of control. take away his cellphone, computer and everything like that and if u need to keep in touch, give him a firefly because only you can program in the numbers he is allowed to reach. Screw his windows shut. Get a lockable doorknobe so you can lock it when its time for bed. get a motion detector for outside his door and window. and i know this si weird but you can get nanny cams and hide them in his room to see what his is doing OR you can get one of those baby moniters and hide that too. its a 15 yaer old guys room with stuff cluttered everywhere. how hard can it be to hide something. if all else fails, boarding school, police or both. he will thank you for this one day. good luck!

holy fukc leave the kid alone for like 5 minutes.