Ok...im not gonna sit and preach but the way some muslims sit and handle questions is just ridiculous. I said "SOME" Muslims....so dont in my face saying "oh sister, its not all of us"
No. I seen a question about what a person thinks of a woman wearing niqab and walking behind her husband...the responses made me really mad. I hear people saying..."at least theyre not like paris hilton and those other sluts and what not" I DONT CARE WHO U ARE...DONT U DARE EVER CALL A WOMAN A SLUT!! that is a sick word used to degrade women!
do u think Our Prophet Muhammed(PBUH) responded back to questions like these by mocking other people's religion in return and calling their women slutts?...NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!! our Prophet Muhammed(PBUH) was the best man ever!! he was no extremist .
If someone asks these questions u dont answer them back in insult or stereotypes..dont stoop that low!!
Now...i have said some things out of anger...so im not preaching....but now i know how ugly it is! The image of the typical Muslim woman wearing the veil and forced to stay home and forbidden to drive is all too common in most peoples thoughts. Although some Muslim countries may have laws that oppress women, this should not be seen as coming from Islam. Many of these countries do not rule by any kind of Shari'ah (Islamic law) and introduce their own cultural standpoints on the issue of gender equity.
Thats how a response should be!
then that makes the person who posted the obnoxious question feel stumped!
BUT...saying things and evil insults like "ur women are this and that..THAT IS NO WAY TO GO!!
do u want someone insulting ur mother..sister..aunt..grandma? no
sooo dont u think that people should think before answering? You know what? Jezak Allah Khayr for this question- I could not agree with you more!! I'm making the transition to wearing niqab (because "I" feel ready to) Insha'Allah, and I certainly wouldn't like to hear any insulting remarks about sisters who don't wear niqab.
On this forum, a Muslim might definitely start with good intentions when posting, however sometimes you find yourself really wanting to 'give it to someone' who posts something insulting about Islam and our beloved Prophet(pbuh). But this is where 'good character' really needs to apply. Our Rasullallah(saws) was taunted, demeaned, tortured, physically abused even spat on and still he was a man of perfect character- and still he cried when non-believers died. This is the character that we need to emulate and model in our current struggle, IMO.
Also remember, that even on the web- if we claim to be Muslims we are Da'ees, this is definitely an outlet for Dawah, so think before you Muslims insult anyone here- ppl are getting an impression from every little thing.
peace. yes...i think we should compare ourselves to our own religion and values and decide if any behavior if right or wrong by comparing it to the right behavior and trying to reach it, instead of comparing it to the wrong behavior and saying that its ok because its not like the wrong behavior. I agree with you sister. There is no reason to EVER use vulgarity in response to anyone. The Master Prophet (sa) said, "A Muslim is one by who's hands, and by who's tongue, all people are safe." im guilty on this one i called haifa wehbe a sl*t on an other question and im sorry for saying that i know its wrong too insult someone
and inshallah i wont use such words about anyone anymore
i agree with your point : )
inshallah we will all become good people actually : ) i agree people should think before answering-unfortunately in to days society people jump to conclusion.speak now think later! i totally agree with you and thanks alot for the advice
i also loved the answers you got especially the one from Hamza K ma sha Allah
may Allah bless you all you are so right! that should clear people's stereotypical images of a muslim lady. Jazaekeallah khair. good for you! ur right. its wrong of people to swear at others when arguing.
it makes you lose the moral high ground
i didnt swear at her.but i called her a paranoid feminist loony
*feels guilty* :(
EDIT:
Thar she goes again you're absolutely right. ok. but really are you a christan trying to fit in?? You make a great point..
Allah bless you dear..
good day I asked/sent a question to Shaykh 'Ubayd bin 'Abdullaah al-Jaabiree to advise the Muslims who insult and curse the Kuffaar in response to the cursing of the Kuffaar upon Islaam...
The Shaykh responded saying:
賮丕賳 丕賱亘丕胤賱 賱丕 賷丿賮毓 亘丕賱亘丕胤賱 賵丕毓賱賲 丕賳 賲丕 丕氐丕亘 丕賱丕爻賱丕賲 賵丕賴賱賴 賲賳 丕匕賶 亘毓囟 丕賱賰賮丕乇 賴賵 賳鬲賷噩丞 丕賱鬲氐乇賮丕鬲 丕賱睾賵睾丕卅賷丞 丕賱鬲賷 賷乇鬲賰亘賴丕 亘毓囟 丕賱丨賲賯賶 賲賳 丕賱賲爻賱賲賷賳 丕賱匕賷賳 賱丕 賷馗亘胤賴賲 賰鬲丕亘 賵賱丕 爻賳丞
((For Indeed Falsehood is not handled with Falsehood, and know that what happened with Islaam and its people from the harm of some of the Kuffaar is a result of the behaviour and actions commited by some of the foolish ones from the Muslims who do not act by the Book and the Sunnah.))
丕賱丕孬賳賷賳 29/ 匕賷 丕賱賯毓丿丞/ 1428 Agreed
U know, one of the most beutiful things about islam. is it has a ruling on almost EVERYTHING
Narrated Malik:
Similarly as above (156) adding, "Who believes in Allah and the Last Day should talk what is good or keep quiet." (i.e. abstain from dirty and evil talk, and should think before uttering). exactly!
following the hadith that brother lost has written,i kept quiet :) Salaam alaikum,your right in a lot of what you said.I think it is a lack of Islamic knowledge that makes people answer the way they do,and get heated when people try to wind us up.
"And verily you have in the messenger of Allah the best of examples." I agree with you to, but I also understand the frustration of the people who answered like you said.
This person comes here every now and then with a new nick last time it was freedom girl now it is sara and insults Islam.
I do not reply to her questions and I do not read her questions Either because if I do I will insult her so I'm avoiding that. She is not worth the time that some ppl give her. Her questions should be left un answered.
Good day sis
salaam In fact, HIJAB is a sign of dignity and respect for women. It signifies that the worth and value of a woman is not in her looks or her physical form. It protects Muslim women from being molested or exploited by men. It safeguards the woman from being reduced to mere "sex objects" or business commodities. Islam prohibits women from all acts of lewdness including public display of their beauty in any form or manner.
Islam similarly requires men to practice modesty in their behavior, to cover their private parts, and not to look at women with lust.
In conclusion, Islam upholds the moral and ethical teachings of Holy Prophet Abraham and all the other prophets of God including all the highest teachings, the teachings of the Holy Qur'an as practiced by the seal of all Prophets, Mohammad (SAWA). These require a higher code of moral and ethical conduct. If a few Muslims fall short, they are to be blame. I couldn't have agreed with you more.
''That the veiled Muslim woman by all means should be regarded as oppressed is a myth that ought to be killed. Many people are scandalized by the veil, but only few seek an explanation from the Muslim woman herself; her voice is often overheard in this matter. If she is asked, on the other hand, the veil represents freedom and dignity.
O Prophet! say to your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers that they let down upon them their over-garments; this will be more proper, that they may be known, and thus they will not be given trouble; and Allah is Forgiving, Merciful.
(Sura 33, 59)
Say to the believing men that they cast down their looks and guard their private parts; that is purer for them; surely Allah is Aware of what they do. And say to the believing women that they cast down their looks and guard their private parts and do not display their ornaments except what appears thereof, and let them wear their head-coverings over their bosoms, and not display their ornaments except to their husbands or their fathers, or the fathers of their husbands, or their sons...
(Sura 24, 30-31)
In the Qura'an, the term hijab is used of the attire of the Muslim woman as a whole, but also includes the way she lives and acts. In everyday language it often only refers to the veil or scarf itself which must cover the head and chest.
This is, so to speak, the exterior sign of the way of life of the Muslim woman, but you also speak of having hijab in ears, tongue and heart. Here there is no reference to a specific veil, but to a suitable behaviour in accordance with the precepts of Islam.
This prevents her from hearing, speaking or feeling negative things of other people.
Hijab is derived from the Arabic word hajaba, which means to conceal or to prevent from being seen. The garb must be loose and opaque and must be worn, whenever the women either leaves the house, or whenever male visitors not belonging to the family are received. Only the hands and face may, according to the prophet Mohammed, be visible, but this point is rather controversial. Some also choose to cover these parts of the body, but more often than not this is the result of the personal choice of the individual woman.
THE VEIL IS A PRIVILEGE, NOT A BURDEN
We know the veil from the antique Hellas, for instance, where the established women of society had the right to wear one, while the prostitute and the female slave had to go about bare-headed and thus unprotected against being accosted. Throughout History, noblewomen have worn veils when walking about among the lower classes, or they have hidden their faces behind fans.
The bridal veil and the nun's habit had a similar purpose. In the New Testament, in his first letter to the Corinthians Paul states that during prayer, women should cover their head (11, 5-6).
Nowadays, some people are astonished daily by seing women wearing veils. Most have an idea that the veil is oppressive, and many protest loudly and publicly on behalf of these women.
One thing that these officious persons have in common is usually that they have never found it necessary to ask the women themselves, not to speak of making themselves acquainted with the religious and cultural background of the veil. Even so, they are busy imposing on others their personal opinions as to what is oppressive.
If one asks the women behind the veils, the story is quite different.
The Muslim woman does not perceive the veil as inhibiting or oppresive. Quite the contrary. The veil guarantees her the full respect of the surroundings, and thus must be considered a privilege rather than a burden.
The dignity of the wife or the daughters, or the dignity of any Muslim woman, for that matter, must be respected and protected, writes Momina Abdullah on the Internet.
Many Danes entertain the erroneous notion that the veil represents a compulsion from the husband and the religion. But women wearing veils, on the other hand, normally radiate devotion towards their religion. They have chosen the veil as a clear demonstration of their Muslim identity.
Forcing anyone to do something against their own will is against Islam. This point is stressed by all the women we have spoken to. There is no demand of compulsion in the Koran. On the other hand, every human being should see it as a religious duty to act out of a clean heart.
Of course there may be families where the woman is forced, for instance to stay at home. But that does not imply that doing so is Islam, the sisters Batool, of 21 years, and Ayisha, of 19, concord. There are oppressed women in all cultures, Danish or Muslim. And as in all other situations it is important to consider each particular case for itself instead of generalizing. For a woman is not oppressed unless she feels it that way.
THE VEIL GIVES CONFIDENCE AND FREEDOM
The scarf contributes to creating equality between man and woman. He does not see her only as a sex symbol, says Batool. When a man looks at a woman wearing a scarf it is because he is interested in her personality and the way she thinks instead of her appearance, her sister complements. A woman who covers herself is hiding her sexual charm, and yet allows her womanliness to remain visible, writes Mominah Abdullah.
Islam does not attempt, as some people erroneously think, to exclude sexuality. It is canalized in its full strength into the marital relationship, and is not 禄flaunted芦 in other contexts. Hijab therefore guarantees the integrity of the Muslim woman.
The clothes must not be tight so that the forms show. In this way, we avoid problems like sexual harassment and rape. When we wear these clothes, we feel secure. We are more protected, Ayisha thinks.
And then a man does not stare at other women than his wife, emphasizes Batool. She elaborates on the relationship between a man and a veiled woman: When a woman covers her beauty, the man does not look at her as a woman, but as a fellow human being. Instead, he concentrates upon her intellect. Bergliot Emina, a Norwegian convert, also emphasizes: You cover your head and chest, but not your brains.
For Ayisha, the notion of the oppressed Muslim housewife is a myth. In Islam, the husband has a duty to maintain his family. It is therefore a matter of course that he must work. But, of course, the woman may also work. It is not so that she cannot go out and get an education or a job. But she is allowed to sit at home, it is not her duty to maintain the family.
Emina adds examples of professional women in Muslim countries: About 60% are illiterate in Egypt, but I have met more female professors in Egypt and Jordan than in Denmark.
Batool adds: Islam encourages everybody, both the man and the woman, to go out and read and study. Bergliot Emina even characterizes it as a Muslim duty to seek knowledge.
She continues: In many ways, Muslim women have more freedom than women in the West. First of all, the veil has meant that I can walk around without being judged by my appearance. Secondly, the women are equally respected and appreciated whether they choose to be housewives or professional women.
For the Muslim woman, the veil therefore represents freedom. Only this freedom has another character and expresses itself in another way than that of the West. But must the women of the West be the only ones to define freedom? Are they the only ones who know what the right to choose for oneself and to decide over one's own body means? We wonder if not the many millions of Muslim women would claim otherwise!
Of course, every woman must have the right to wear a veil as well as the right not to wear one.''
EDIT - I don't take any credit for this answer. It was typed by four Danish women. |
