What should I do!?

ive asked similar questions but i need to know AM I WRONG TO LEAVE HIM! ..i feel like i'll leave him helpless and hurting and i love him but. -he shows me no affection-he doesnt even touch me hug me all day unless its sexual-He doesnt let me cry when i do cry he says why the **** are you crying.--blames me for everything...like if i say you dont treat me like you love me he says well thats just you that feels like that you have a problem you need to go to a doctor....im questioning if thats true. So ...thats why I need someone to evalute this for me. Please.-Controlls what I wear....if i wear something he doesnt like im a slut.-I cant make phone calls. And even though I dont because its a serious fight-he still get ingoing outgoing bills and checks history on the phone-has to have all the passwords to my accounts-checks my history-he's only become physical with me once other then like man handling..pushing and so on.-Never wrong.-constantly touching me..sexually

I cant talk to a single guy...even if its just someone saying hello at a gas station "hi how are ya" he says..ignore them...and we get in huge fights over stuff like that...and he usually breaks up with me...but says i'll never be with anyone else. I dont know what to do. I just i know people say leave and i think im ready to cause i know its not right we've been together 2 years but i just need to know im not wrong in leaveing. That im not the one who needs to change.

You are definitely NOT wrong for leaving him. In fact, I would get out as fast as I could and would NEVER look back. What a hard life you will have if you stay with this controlling person.

In every way, he is hacking you down piece by piece till he brings you down to his level of inhumanity. Whatever you do, don't have kids to this idiot.

LEAVE him to his miserable self. Do you wnat to end up on a commune somewhere? GET OUT NOW!

You say, he sez..."but says i'll never be with anyone else".

That could be taken as a death threat.

The Rat

Let me make this perfectly clear....

YOU'RE WRONG IF YOU DON'T LEAVE HIM!

Your life will continue to be a living hell unless you get off your a$$ and do something to change it.

HE WON'T CHANGE - AND HE MAY WELL END UP KILLING YOU!

He has caused him own problems - time for him to deal with them

Good luck & God Bless

From what you have said he is emotionally abusive & controlling, you don't need that in your life, it's too short as it is, hope everything gets better for you!

you know what the answer is, that's why you've written. He's beat you down so much (emotionally) that you lack confidence in your decision. Time to take your life back into your hands. He's a classic abuser. Get out tonite.

No. You're not wrong. This is an unhealthy abusive relationship. GET OUT NOW!

Hold your horses!!!!!
This guy is treating you like shiiit, and you're just letting him?
Come on, you need to be confident. This guy is an @ss and he's totally taking advantage of you! If you want to call someoen, that's your business, if you want to cry, he should be there beside you, holding you and telling you it's ok. And hell, if he calls you a slut and he's serious abotu it, then you gotta dump his ***. Checking your accounts? Having passwords to everything? This is definitly NOT a healthy relationship. In a healthy one, you need to have your own space, you need to be thinking abotu yourself first and your comforts, but still in a manner that your partner is still considered important. All this jerks doing is thinking about himself. He's not helping you out, he doesnt even hug you, all he wants you for is sex. Im sorry to say this, but the moment he started to control your life, you should of dumped his sorry @ss. Now, you need to break up with this guy, IMMIDIETLY because he is not worth your time. He doesnt care abotu you or your feeligns, and hes an ***. Get some confidents, have your friends with you if your afraid and dump him. GL HUN~! <3

well...i think you should leave him because he is WAY too controlling over you.. you cant have a life with him and you should because you should live your life the way you want to.. he may just be insecure... but if you love him...just get a separation and if you see that he's not changing his ways and how he's treating you...divorce him and go find someone to whom will let you have a say things and so you can have an opinion, know thaty you're loved and someone who will treat you right and with the proper respect....

hope i helped you...good luck

I'm not sure this is for real however, just in case it is my opinion is leave! but before you do make sure you have a safe place to go. You should also let someone like Your mom, dad, sister or brother know how you are being treated and talked to, not for them to get involved but for them to know your need and if something should happen you will have evidence. Is this person your husband or boy friend? It really doesn't matter he's an abuser and you must learn to love yourself so that you will clearly know that you deserve better. Some of us women mistake our need to be needed or our need to take care of someone else as love. Its not, get away from this person and before you get involved with someone else get clear on your self worth. I wish you the best!

You are not wrong.. You MUST leave him. His controlling will only get worse to the point where he will physically harm you. Pack your stuff and go NOW. When you are gone a day or so, change all your passwords to everything. Get a new cell number and don't have any contact with him. He will use his "sweetness" to try to get you to come back, don't fall for it.

I think you need to get support and leave:

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* Does your partner tease you in a hurtful way in private or in public?
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