Serious question no insults please!?

First off, I never call anyone on Yahoo names to purposefully put them down so I expect the same courtesy. My story is like this: I met my bf when I was 19 we had an instant connection and talked about getting married, unfortunately he developed a drug problem, I never used drugs so I left him hoping he'd get his life together when I was 23, still in love w/ him though. I ran into him recently and he is clean and doing really well when I saw him I instantly felt that connection again, we exchanged cell phone numbers and have been texting non stop and saw each other twice. We both agree we want to be w/ each other, the problem is we are both living w/ other people, who neither of us is happy w/. His new girlfriend also has a kid who he is close w/, but he no longer wants to be w/ the mom. We want to handle our breakups as maturely and nicely as possible and don't want to hurt anyone's feeling, esp the little girl. How should we bring this up w/ our partners?

If anyone can give me an example of what to say it would really help, my current bf knows something is up and he's acting really nice instead of his normal jerk self, so I don't just want to be a total b**** and tell him to pack his stuff.

Say what you just said here. There is no nice way to end a relationship, so just tell the truth and be honest and considerate. The best way to do it is to think of what you would want someone to say to you. Think in those terms and you'll manage with compassion. That don't mean your currents S.O.'s will like it, but it keeps you on the path to e being upfront and decent about it.

I think the truth is the only way to go here. I would just let your b/f know that you had feelings for someone in the past and let him know that you recently bumped into him and those feelings are still there and you don't think it would be fair to him to continue this relationship when you have unresolved feelings for someone else.
I hope that your b/f is not abusive. If he is, I would suggest you don't tell him alone.

Both of you will have to take this slowly, instead of just springing it on your partners, because it is a big deal. At least you only split up a few years ago, so the relationships you're in aren't really long term. You'll have to just break up gently with them, and then wait a little while before getting back together, or they'll be really hurt. Good luck!

if you think the ex is really better than the current, then its only fair to tell the current guy what is going on. And if the ex can do the same with his partner maybe she will allow him to stay in her daughters life. honesty is going to be the best and if someones feelings get hurt then you have to put it aside and do what is best for you.

You just need to be honest with your current boyfriend. Speak from your heart and don't tell him any of the things you don't like about him. You had the chance to discuss that when you were in the relationship. Just tell him you ran into your old love and you want to start over with him. It wouldn't be fair to your current boyfriend if you weren't honest. Don't give too many details, just enough so he understands.

If I were you I would say " I'm not trying to be a b**** but I'm not happy living here. And if you can't respect my wishes then you never were the righ one. I wanna see other people and find the love of my life" Somewhere along those lines!
But it sounds hard and thats the best I could do.
Good Luck.

If you're both honestly unhappy with your current relationships (like you were feeling like that BEFORE you ran into each other) then the mature thing to do is break it off. Tell your current b/f how you honestly feel and then take this new relationship slow.

Wow, honestly, I don't even know.
I'd say be honest with him and tell him how you feel, but sometimes that's unfortuantly not the best option.

I wish you the best of luck and hope that it definatly works out for the both of you.

Best of Luck <3

Just be honest. It works best. Let him know you're not over your ex and you want to explore the possibilities with him. You're not married, it is much easier to end things. You don't have to be cruel, just honest.

Just tell your bf that you aren't sure this is the relationship you are looking for and you would like to split up. Be honest...especially if he's been a jerk to you. That should be reason enough.

You say your ex boyfriend has a drug problem but is clean now. You have only seen him a couple of times and this is not enough time to determine if he is actually clean. After saying this, if you do not love the partner you are with now then you need to be fair to this person and end it, not so much because you are deciding to go back to your ex boyfriend, but because it is the right thing to do. The best way to approach a break up is to be as honest as possible without being cruel. You can say something like this, "I have something very important to discuss with you. I have been doing some soul searching and even though it is difficult for me to tell you this, I feel I must because it is important that I am honest with you. I have decided that it would be to your and my best interests if we end this relationship. I care about you but I find that I am not in love with you and you deserve someone who is."....then you can hear his reply and take it from there. It is never easy to break up with someone, but you do so because in your heart you know it is the only fair thing to do. Good luck to you!