How can I learn to deal with the past and focus on the present? I'm 16.?

I had the time of my life in 9th grade. However, I was dating someone who I never really liked. Also, throughout the year I had developed anorexia although I was never treated and never told me friends or family, they assumed they knew. When the year was over my friends and I dispersed to different schools throughout the world. I lived away from family and in a dorm. I didn't know how to deal with everything changing so suddenly and starved myself more and began cutting to feel something. After a few months I couldn't take it anymore and became bulimic. Time has passed but I am still the same person. My parents have slowly decided they want a divorce. When I am at school my dad always calls me and cries; I don't know how to handle that! I go to an intense school and have class until anywhere from 7-12 at night. My brother is in college and lives in a fraternity. (I don't talk to him much.) But my little sister I care about more than anything, and I want her to be happy.
Please Help!!

From the little I know about eating disorders, the main issue underlying them is lack of control. Many who develop eating disorders believe that what they put in or out of their bodies is the only thing they can control in their chaotic world. I don't know of anyone who wouldn't be overwhelmed with what you're going through.

Here are my suggestions:
1. Go to your school counselor if there is one available. You need to be able to talk to someone who is removed from your situation and who will help you find coping skills that will work throughout your life.

2. I believe you are trying to find ways to stuff down all the feelings you have regarding being in a new school, feeling disconnected with friends, your parents divorce and father's emotional breakdown. Pushing down these feelings with food only makes you feel guilty and you turn on yourself thinking negative things, which only compounds the problem. Food isn't the solution. You need to be honest about what it is that you're feeling and vocalize it to people.

3. One of the ways you can start vocalizing is to tell your father how you feel when he breaks down crying on the phone. He's going through a very difficult time in his life, but you shouldn't be the shoulder he cries on because as his child, there's not much that you can do. Let him know "Dad, I know this is a really tough time that you're going through. I feel really overwhelmed and I don't know how to help you through this. I need you to be the one who helps me through this and not the other way around. We all need family counseling to help us through this transition". Make sure that you use a lot of "I" statements and tell him what it is that you need and some suggestions on how to make things better. Be an active participant in the change that you want to see.

4. Contact your brother and if you're not comfortable talking to him on the phone then send him an email and let him know what's going on. Express to him that while you don't speak often, the family is going through a crisis and everyone has to be supportive. As your older brother, you're looking to him for some guidance and to get involved with the serious family issues. He may not be really receptive and feel like there's not much he can do himself but even checking in to see how you're doing would be better than feeling like you're all alone.

5. As far as your little sister, make sure that she's not keeping all her feelings bottled up as well. Send her emails and ecards to let her know that you're thinking of her and call her so that she can talk about whatever it is that she's feeling.

I know this may seem overwhelming right now, but with some professional help, some family support, you'll make it through. If you need to e-mail me please do (liv102@yahoo.com).

I think you're going to have to be open and honest with them since you've kept this to yourself for a while. They're going to have to drop whatever issues they're going through as husband and wife and focus on making you better. Please e-mail me if you need to vent or want some advice. Report It

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