How would you handle this relationship issue?

I am 40, recently divorced. A few months ago, I was pursued by a handsome 30 year old man, who told me he was single, never married. I met him a few times, there was sexual chemistry between us, but I told him straight-up I didn't want to date anyone as I was looking forward to some "me" time after being married for so long. But our attraction was strong and we wound up sleeping together, and agreed that when I felt the need, call him. I just found over the weekend that he has a girlfriend and they've been a couple for four years. Seems my cousin knew her in college and recently got re-aquainted with her when she began working at the same hospital as the girlfriend. She tells my cousin how wonderful he is, how much in love they are and how they're planning a future together. I am sick. I know it was only sex, but this girl has no clue this crap is going on. And for various reasons, I do not think I am the only woman he's sleeping around with. Should I tell him or his g/f?

My cousin will not tell her...she said she doesn't want to break her heart. And who knows? She'd probably not even believe her.

Ouch. What a terrible situation.

Personally, I don't know what I would do for the girlfriend. I certainly would refuse to see him again and tell him why.

I hope this helps.

I would confront the guy. Let him know you know he has a girlfriend he is in a serious relationship with, you don't appreciate being lied to, just to get in your pants. He could have told you the truth and let you decide if you wanted to deal with him or not. After all, you let him know you were not interested in a relationship, that opened the door for him to come clean with you! Some men just can't help but be DOGS!!!

I wouldn't say anything either. The best thing that you can do is leave him alone. It's unfortunate about the girlfriend but, when you decided to give people bad news you never know how their going to take it. She could blame you or they could be in a open relationship or who knows, all you can do is prey that he gets what's coming to him in time.

You should first meet him and tell him that you know about his gf and that you are very hurt and so forth. Do not tell him you are going to tell his gf, if he asks, say I don't know her or whatever. Then go directly to his gf and tell her everything face to face and confess your innocence. It is key that you go directly to her in order to save him the ability to confess to her before you do. It will serve him right.

I think if you tell him, he wont do anything about it. he is a SLEEZ so tell the girlfriend. and if you want proof, next time he comes over take pictures of him. then show her. She needs to know the guy she is in love with is a man-whore. You had no idea he was such a jerk! I suggest telling her, or you could always black mail him =P

i think you should have a woman to woman talk with her and let her know that her man is a DOG! You would want the same if you found yourself feeling the way she feels. Nobody wants to sit around and be someone elses fool. Please do her a favor and let her know, it's only right.

I say leave it alone. What is done in the dark will come to light sooner or later. I would not tell the girlfriend. She probably won't believe you and if she does believe you, she probably won't leave him b/c she thinks he's so wonderful.

I believe you made a good point not saying anything to her. Lets keep her smile/cause smiles are free but hard to come by. But leave the lil boy alone. Cause I can call him many of thing.Be strong and be the young lady you are.

I hope with what you think you know that you are practicing safe sex. Keep yourself first, and be safe. Don't debase yourself for just sex. You don't need another person for that. Get yourself a BOB. (Battery Operated Boyfriend)

this is a tough situation, but i think this is best left alone, understand that it was just sex and leave it alone. if its ment to b for her to find out she will

Keep him out of your life & stay out of it. Chances are she wouldn't believe a complete stranger anyway...there's no reason for you to get caught in the middle. Confront him maybe, but not her.

I would say confront the guy and say if you dont tell her in front of me then I will tell her. Its really bad to if you think its more than one person. Good Luck!

tell tha gurlfriend if u kno her n shes a good person she deserves to not be cheated on

TELL HER!

confront the guy and tell him striaght up and then talk to his gf

Do not tell the girlfriend. If she really believes what she told your cousin, she probably will not believe you either. If you think that it will make you feel better, you can say something to the guy, but if you are doing it because you think you are going to hurt him, don't bother. I don't know him and I know he doesn't care, especially if what you say about not being the only woman is true. Be happy that this was only sex and that you did not really get involved with this guy. Also, pray that his girlfriend finds out in time NOT to marry this guy.

Hey hate me , but you are already at the hospital get tested first and foremost !!! He knew exactly what he was doin from the get go. like you said he pursued you, if you should tell her? i don't know about that because, i helped a lady awhile back right who got into it with her husband at this party and after all that they were together the next night so if you tell her it may blow up in your face. an he may say it was you were your proof if she feels they are that in love she won't belive you she gonna think you want her man.

Wow...this is a tough question to answer.I'm sorry that this couldn't be someone you could spend time with.I'm sorry he lied to you.I wouldn't talk to neither.Mostly because if you go to her she probably would't believe you.I've seen other people that I know that this has happened to.She's going to have to find out for herself that he's a pig!.And he isn't worth talking to either after the way the lied to you.I would break all ties with him and find someone that deserves you! Good luck sweetie..I am sure everything will work out in your favor.