Is it okay for us to have sex?

okay so i have a baby by this guy named blake. we never went out to be honest [sad i know] but we were intimate and never had a real connection. okay so i've been talkin to him for 10 months writing him back n fourth [he is in a county home] so i guess u can say we never had a real relationship until now. Heres the problem......he loves me; but is not in love with me. He so called loves someone. But he does wanna have sex with me, even though I love him but he dosen't feel the same. He wants to be only friends. [he even said it his self "who knows what are future holds"] but as of now i dont know what to do. is it wrong just to have sex with him with no commintment just friendship. idk....i wanna do the right thing but I also dont wanna stop our sex life, because it might close doors for us to stay connected. What should I do...he gets home in a month....he wants to have sex....how do i handle this?

Dont, dont and dont. He will not take you seriously at all if your just giving it to him. "Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free" He will have another girl on the side and you will be hurt in the end. Trust me you dont want that to happen. Untill your sure he "Loves" You enough and he is willing to commit then you can Commit to a sex life with him.

Also Kudos to Football Below me!!! He knows what hes talkin about.

The most important thing is the baby, his he a good father? His he going to take care of the baby financially? Will he help you out by being a father before you give him what he wants, and even though he just likes you, should you have sex with him? I say NO, and I am a guy...tell him that if he want to coochie that he has to shape up and take care of all those things that I previously stated, then you will think about giving it up! Good Luck!

No problem have sex and enjoy the sex=buddy relationship,, then when child #2 comes along you can try to find a man that will except you for what you really are,,, A Single mom with 2 kids,, cause your man that you are about to have sex with will disappear when he finds out that he is a daddy and even if he doesn't disappear he won't be worth anything too you,,, I dought that he will even be able to pay his child support So good luck

Why would you have sex with someone that doesn't have the same feelings and loves someone else and is having sex with that someone else it doesn't make sence you have to move on he is just there for the sex he just says he loves you as a friend what is that suppose to mean.. Sry but move on girl!!!!

Hey there *** dumpster... Let me help you out!!!!! You need to have a very large cock fill that love canal up with a super load of dr G's cream... **** that dick bag blake.. Sounds like you need a little strange cock and I am the perfect person to fill you up..

Bolt your Doors ,Wear a Chastity belt and give him the Big Heave Ho! Come on poppet,surely you can see your just another stop gap for this chaps needs. He has probably got a girl in every port,and a Wife,

Don't do it!!! Sounds like he is using you and you don't want to do it just because he asked and you 'love' him. See if he wants a relationship with his baby. Show him you are worth the wait.

He is playing you so if you allow him too your going to be really hurt so be careful. He is in a county home? geez how did you pick that trophy? Stay away.

If you love him and he doesn't love you, it's only yourself who will get hurt if you have sex with him. So do you want to be hurt that way...I'm sure you don't. Be strong.

He's using you! The worst part is you are letting him. He has already told you that he loves someone else. tell him to take a hike!

Do not have sex with him because you have feelings for him and you will end up getting hurt in the long run if he only wants to be friends then just be friends.

i say when he gets home you should hang out a few times before u have sex again and maybe he might start loving you like you love him

dont have sex with him. if he doesnt love you and he loves someone else, dont have sex with him.

Don't do it!!
Please, don't do it!! You will only hurt yourself in the end.

You should do what u think is best because if he really loves u then he will understand if you dont want to have sex

No!!

have sex with him DUH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You have not learned your lesson after having a baby by a near stranger who is unprepared to take care of you or your baby. You have entangled yourself in a sexual addiction by having sex with this man and now your well being (ocytocin linked) is connected to continuing the same kind of physical bonding that got you into this situation in the beginning. Do not live in the same quarters with a man who tells you he is "not in love with you" after you have given him everything any woman has to give to a man! You must stop having sex with Blake if you ever wish to be free of the physical addiction you have with him at the present time. If you fail to stop, you will end up overlooking all of the negative behaviors he shows to you and your child and he will continue to use you as his sex slave. It is wrong to have sex with someone to whom you are not married and having sex with him will definitely not keep any man connected to you. Don't do it. Find a separate living quarters for yourself and your baby until Blake takes responsibility for his behavior and commits himself to a longterm marriage relationship where your family can thrive.

he has been away to long and is horny, trust me men that are locked up say anything to the woman and he is probably hanging up the phone with u and calling another girl and telling her the samethings. dont do it unless u feel it is going somewhere. Don't let him use u, he loves u cause u are the mother of his child, if hes not in love with u then dont waste ur time there find someone who deserves YOU. and if something goes somewhere in the future then it does dont try and push things. they will be if they were meant to be.Good luck.