My ex is using me and bullying me please help me with how to handle this?

Been separated w/ husband 4 months He had free reign 2 c son not only 4 our sons sake but I was trying 2 c if our marriage cld be saved He blew off countless visits Doesn't call on daily or sometimes weekly basis 2 check on son I made mistakes thinkin w/ my heart & not my head & would still have sex w/ him I would go out w/ him 2 dinner Well let me say that he goes out 2 bars every night He & his FAMILY that he lives w/ do drugs So the rules were that son couldn't sleep over on the wkend (but he could have him over durin day both days!) & they needed 2 baby proof like mad & it wld b fine 4 him 2 visit (not liking it) They won't do it Its more a "how dare u tell us what 2 do..." & "we will watch him - trust us..." even tho they do drugs & drink He admittd 2 leadin me on so he could c him more than he wld otherwise I fell 4 it again this past wkend only 2 b told he saw lawyer 2day (he didnt tell lawyer drink/drug use)-"if i let him c son as he wants we've future if not then no!" HELP

I am sorry about the short hand. It's hard to fit all the details into the small amount of space.
I let him come to my home to see him repeatedly but I stopped that since he was using me. I used an alternate (safe) place for him to see our son and he complained. I have NOT yet let him go to his home with his family and don't want to since there is bad activity there. I wanted feed back.

Do you realize you could lose custody of your son to the state for allowing him to go into an unsafe environment?it is your job to take care of your son.Stop the visits,tell your husband the only way he can get visits is to move into his own home and go to drug rehab.Unless you want your son to be harmed,or to think that it is ok to be a druggie you will take control of this situation.If you must,get a restraining order.Oh,and for goodness sakes stop sleeping with this guy.GODbless

hes not a good man. Leave him cause you made a mistake. you wouldnt want it to get worse or watsoever. When he realizes ur gone hell reemmber his mistake . im not saying he will come back to you but its best if ya 2 split up from ym point of view but dont take my word for it

First. No shorthand writing when explaining your problem to people. Also PROOFREAD. This was really hard to understand.

Honestly it sounds like you are using your son to get your ex back. Are you still in love with him? I think he knows this and is using it to his advantage. If he wants to see his son then allow him to come to the house and see the son.

If his environment is not safe for your son then you need to report this to social services or whomever setup the child custody arrangements and ensure the child is always in a safe environment.

Stop using the son to your advantage. Heal your heart and put your son and his well being first.