Compulsive liar...need advice?

My best friend of 6 years has always been one to exagerate. he got married about a year ago (or so i thought) and has always told me that his wife hated me, discouraged me from talking to her, etc. so she left him the other day, and he told me something about her i simply didnt believe... so i called her and asked if it was true. it wasnt. we ended up meeting face to face and discovered that pretty much everything he ever told either of us was a lie. they in fact weren't even married! how should i confront him about this? his wife actually wants to do it together but idk. i feel guilty, too, although hes the one that told lie upon lie about me and lied to me straight to the face (i believe hes been doing it for years.) he's obviously a compulsive liar and somewhat volatile. he doesnt know that weve spoken yet... how should i handle this?

im in the gay section because i'm gay and gay people are naturally smarter! :) also, i'm afraid to just walk away. he's known to be suicidal. he's not a horrible person, but he is manipulative and you cant trust a word he says.

Honey, he isn't your friend...ditch him before the drama grows into something more sinister.
Once he's exposed and embarrassed he may graduate to more vicious retaliation...
Keep your distance from this individual, he's a drain on your life force...
Good Luck...

Why r u in the gay forum?
Dump the a - - hole as your friend... who needs friends like that. Just because you've known someone a long time doesn't make them a real friend. I knew someone for 11 years and realized she was using me because I was naieve, I haven't seen her since and it's been another 10 yrs.
Tell him, drop the bomb and then walk away!!!

Just talk to him openly and after that never care a DAm for him. You have your own way better to flower than his. That is it.

girl do your thing and follow your gut. That's right we're smarter!I think you two need to talk to him let him know whats up otherwise he's going to end up taking it to another level then you might be in hot mess!

personality disorder springs to mind

Maybe the person needs help?

I wouldn't confront it -- let her if she is vindictive enough to do so.

The tendency to exaggerate and lie in young males generally relates to a complete lack of self-confidence and self-image on their part. They are trying to be people they are not, because they dislike the people they are.

I suggest going forward without fear and without confronting it, or worrying about it. Rise above it. You know you can't trust what he says, and the only way to change him is to make him feel better about himself. Only if he tries to pursue something about what he has told you would I respond with "we both know that wasn't true to start with, I wish you trusted me enough to tell me the truth" -- and then move straight on.

Confrontation randomly (as she is proposing) is for people who need drama to feel good about THEMSELVES -- that's why I said let her do it if she wants.

You want peace, and to make sure he is safe -- good for you.

Kindest thoughts,

Hermes

I had a friend like this. She invented that she had a brother and that he was killed in an accident. I had known her for several yrs and she never mentioned a brother! So i asked her mom and her mom laughed and said I dont have a son nor does she a brother! She was really mad for a while and for obvious reasons. SHES A LIAR!!! Thats only 1 of the whole list of lies she had going on! I think you need to confront your friend and advise him that he needs help! Maybe offer a few places where he can go for treatment!