Going through a divorce and i was arrested for punching my husband in the eye.?

My husband is a very jealous husband he has grabbed me a nd spit in my face in the past. I couldn't take anymore harassing then one day he was in my face and i just punched him in the eye. He ran to the phone and called the cops and i was arrested and have a restraining order. i've been to court but the da will not drop charges so it will go to trial. This is my first offense. In the meantime i do have physical custody of my daughter but i cannot get back in the house to get my stuff. He is playing games by not giving back my personal documents pre marital furniture. My lawyer says i cannot go to house because i will get re arrested. My next court day for my criminal trial will be in Aug. I don't think my lawyer is doing a great job and don't think he is aggressive enough for this. case. I Haven't talked to my husband since feb and its very hard to communicate about our daughter. This is a very bizarr case and can't believe how this is being handled. How do i get my stuff back?

What in the world is wrong with people replying to this?
You punched an aggressive, verbally abusive man in the face- I say "Way to go, girl! He had it coming!"

I cannot believe the way this is being handled, either. I hope the judge sees how ridiculous this is once it's inside a court room. He'll probably dismiss the case.
In the meantime keep going to the police station until you get one of the officers to escort you to the home to get stuff. They can call him and tell him to be out of the house during that time so there isn't extra fighting.

A big bully aggressive man gets a black eye- woopty do! I'm glad!

I think you are not getting what you deserve, I think you need to loose custody as well. You are obviously a hotheaded violent person and have NO buisiness raising a child. Sooner or later you will BREAK court orders with your hot head and I just hope the courts have enough since to give that child to the father who is obviously the better parent. Had he of had custody and hit you, the child would have been taken from him so fast his head would spin. good luck

sorry to break in the news but america is quite hard on domestic violence. Iam just glad your husband had the black eye to proove it, else he would have gone to jail for calling the cops.
Also you are not telling the whole story, why would he need to be jealous, have you been unfaithfull ?

You need to go to the police. You explain how you weren't allowed to get any of your stuff and you need a police escort to the residence to obtain your belongings. I don't know what state you are in but that is usually how it works.

Although you have a restraining order against you...you should be able to retrieve your personal possessions from the house. Contact your local law enforcement agency and ask them if they can help you.

Oh, and kudos on the left hook! tee hee hee

xxxx

I hoped you learned your lesson. Physicall abuse does not solve anything. No matter if you are a male or female. Now he is in the drivers seat. You need to kiss his behind and try to work things out and then do it right this time.

Arrande for some one elso to get your stuff back for you, its the only way. Next time do not resort to violence to sort out problems your are setting a poor exmple for your daughter.

Nice! Too often woman are allowed to get away with hitting a man but a man goes to jail for bumping into a woman! I hope you get the same kind of sentence a man would get!

Double standards SUCK!

1. Wait on the stuff, you will get it back.
So, why you are waiting..
Make a detailed list

2. Talk to your attroney
a. what are his plans about the charges?
Drop it to at the very least disturbing the peace
(if it can't get discharged period)
b. the divorce?
alimoney?
child support
what kind of visitation for the husband
family counseling
c. Your stuff
Is there anything you want or need now?
Tell the lawyer to make a special arrangement to collect some belongings, or have the soon to be ex to bring it to your lawyers office.

The next time you tell your story make sure you are complete with it.
From the past your ex has been physically abusive towards you: grabbing you, yelling at you, spitting in your face.
And on the particular night when the arguement started to escalate, you got afraid, and defend yourself by punching him in his eye. (RIGHT THIS IS WHAT HAPPENED?)

Communication is key.

If you are not happy with this lawyer, find another (but find the other first, then the new lawyer will send a letter saying he is the new lawyer)

If anything happens to your belongings make sure the guy pays for it. But don't worry about that stuff.
Take care of your children, and your self.

What you should have done since you say that your husband has been abusive in the past, you should have called the cops each and every time.
You should have NEVER put your hands on your husband and the police were within the law when they arrested you for assault...

As for you getting your property back, this will be up too the judge to determine who gets what once this case goes before the divorce judge...
Right now your concern should be focused on this assault case instead of material property that can be replaced. Your assault against your husband could cost you physical custody of your child should your husband wish to seek full custody. he could possibly win since you did assault him and there is no record of abuse from him to you since you never contacted the police in the past.

Best of Luck

that's horrible! Men, stop being so mean because you hooked up with barracudas! If a woman hits a man, he won't even sway. If a man hits a woman, he's going to knock her out. Which is why you should always keep your hands to yourself, gentlemen. I don't know what to tell you, other than calling the cops and actually going as far as having a police escort take you to the house to get your stuff. Record every phone call and meeting you guys have. While it won't be permisible in court, it will show state of mind and intent on his part.

Don't know what you should do legaly, but I think the asshole deserved it! Don't ever let someone treat you that way, or get in your face, I think you stood up for yourself!

I don't think people should get beaten up all the time but sometimes I think certian people just need a good *** whooping! If a man can treat you like that and spit in your face then I think he deserved what he got! He just a lil queer to go running to the cops though can't take a hit from a women but he can disgrace you when he feels like it!

You know I filed a domestic violence incident against my ex and she lost almost everything. She lost the ability for 5 years to get her kids back, lost her home, car etc.. As far as the furniture, the judge will arrang something when you go to court for your divorce. THis may take months or years. I am so glad my ex got what she deserved. The dumb b**** is now having to live with someone to have a roof over her head and a car to drive. I hope the same happens to you!!!!!!!!!!!!

YOU NEED TO TAKE IT UPON YOURSELF TO GO TO AN ANGER MANAGEMENT CLASS BEFORE COURT! A similar thing happened to me...he said i tried to strangle him but I didnt. The ONLY thing I did was pull on his shirt and I was arrested. He later dropped the case but it was harder to get the DA to drop it. It cost me $3500 and my husband is now my EX husband. He did this because I threatened to leave him b/c I was sick of his sh*t. Now he still wants me back and says that he is sorry that he had me falsely arrested. Screw him! Your husband just did that to make you look bad and he will use it against you get custody of your daughter. I would be a lot less worried about your "stuff" and more worried about your daughter. Take that class and plead self defense. Even if he didnt touch you...he was in your face and you felt threatened b/c he has hit your before. Use that. Live it, breathe it. Make the judge believe it and you'll be ok. Take the class.

That SUCKS! I am married to a total jack azz like that right now. He went and filed for temporary custody of my kids one monday after he got druck that weekend and came home raising hell with me. My niece was there and she is 27 and weighs about 260 lbs. He went to hitting me and even pulled a gun out. She then got into a fight with him. We left and went to my sister in laws house, my nieces step mom. My husband wouldn't let me have the kids when we left, so instead of getting the law invovled and my children see it I just left. He ended up driving over there drunk with my children in the vehicle. When he pulled up I hid. When he was fighting with my niece his sister and I went to the truck and got the kids out. He finally left, but with a black eye my niece gave him. So he went and filed for temporary custody Monday and took the kids back from me when I was at work. He picked them up from the babysitter's. When we got to court I brought reports of him previously going to jail for domestic violence, pulling a gun on me, being drunk, and showed eviedence that he was mentally unstable. I also brought numerous witnesses with me and my niece also testified that he lied about the black eye. I also raised my shirt up in the back so the judge could see my bruises. It was obvious by that time what had happened. I got exactly what I wanted. I also had to temporarily stay out of the house because he got a sign restraining order. But it all worked out in the end. Get you a different lawyer if the one you have hasn't done anything. My ordeal was over in 3 days. In the future keep documents and pictures seperate from your home. I even had video tape recordings of how he treated me that he didn't know about. He was proven to be the azz he really is. It is your word against his unless you have evidence. And I have since learned don't sink to their level. As much as you want to, don't hit them. Instead antaganise him enough to hit you and then reverse the role and take him to the cleaners! And no this.. only one party has to be aware of any recordings taking place in order to be entered into to court. You are that person. Good Luck!