Is there something psychologically wrong with my husband? His personality has changed since marriage.?

My husband and I have been married a year, dated for 7 as Christians, and work together from home. His personality has changed, I don鈥檛 know why. He鈥檚 rarely happy, nice. I don鈥檛 have friends anymore - he disapproves. I love my church, but he 鈥榗an鈥檛 be himself鈥?there, & refuses to talk about God. We used to go on mission trips together! He blames money issues on me. I sew up my worn clothes, gave up grad school for us, and yet, he blew over 1000$ this month! He goes days without bathing. He gets enraged, breaks/throws things, grabs me, but only leaves tiny bruises. He threatens my cat, calls me *****, etc. when mad & broke our bedroom door. He puts me down in front of family. It's humiliating. I鈥檝e asked repeatedly for counseling with him; I鈥檓 not strong enough to handle this myself. He agrees, but doesn鈥檛 go.

I鈥檓 ashamed of the way I鈥檓 feeling towards him. He used to be so happy-go-lucky and nice and fun-loving. Am I the reason for this change? What can I do to make it better?

Call on the name of the Lord and depend on Him because He is the biggest helper you can ever find.
Ask him what's making him so depressed and angry...

I think your seeing his real personality. The guy you met before marriage was just for show. I would give him an ultimatum (spelling!) saying either shape up or ship out. If he reacts violently to that then you know you deserve better. If he doesn't go to counseling I guess you can't make him. I don't think you're the reason for his change. Worst come the worst he may be developing a mental disorder, but who knows. Good luck

He sounds like a nightmare. I don't care what the Bible says about it, you're not supposed to be stuck in a marriage with someone like that.

I'd give him an ultimatum and if he misses counselling again, file for divorce.

And pray for the strength and courage to deal with this situation.

You would do best to seek good counsel from the church you are in or another.Many churches provide free counselling.You can choose a good, sound one.My hubby was changed drastically after being counselled by a church elder.Even I was taken aback..

From your answer, it seems that there are many issues involved that may have resulted in his drastic changes (including finance issues) in behaviour.I do not know if he is a backslidden Christian, a non-believer from the start.These are factors that can affect your chances of marriage revival.
It would still be best for a good 3rd party (counsellor, trusted friend, pastor..) to assess the situation and bring to light the hidden causes of the marriage crisis.

There is nothing impossible with God and I hope you continue to cast your cares upon Him in prayers and join the support group in church.Remember Romans 8:28 that God has specific purposes for all that are allowed in our lives.He makes no mistakes.Is there anything He wants to bring to your attention from all that has happened?Seek forgiveness for all that is done which are not in His favour.Seek His strength , sufficient grace and peace. Find solace in His Word.Most importantly...pray for your husband!

Continue to be submissive to your hubby and care for him.
Love never fail...Do what you have to do and leave the rest to God.

It's not something you can change. He has to want to change. If he is unwilling to do so then it may be time to think about seperating from him. You don't have to devorce him (yet) but I think you both need some time apart. He needs to learn that he will lose you if he does not treat you with respect. As long as he knows he can do this stuff and get away with it, he will.


Also this sounds like a very sudden personality change. Drugs or alchol abuse could have something to do with it.

Has anything in his life changed, as this could be why he has changed, but there is no excuse, for him to treat you like this, i have been in this situation, where i have been hurt, both mentally and physically by my partner, i didn't`t no why he changed he just did, you need to tell someone you trust, you say you love your church, is there someone there who you can talk to and get some help from. He blames you for his mistakes and for the money problems, but he is the one who uses money for things you don`t no about. I know this is easier said than done, but you need to get out of this situation as you can not live like this, go back to your family or somewhere safe. He does not want to change as he would go to the counselling like he said he would. This situation can only get worse, so PLEASE get out before it gets out of control.