Parents how do you handle your ex girlfriend or wife?

Right now I am getting angry or mad. I have a six year old son that lives an hour away from us. There been a child support been ordered six years ago. His father hasn't been like paying like he post to but had started. His father has been like in and out of his son life. Right now his girlfriend or his wife now is crazy or something. She had emailed me saying that he can;t see his son only when his grandma has him. The last time my son was with his father my son came home with a bruise on his butt and my son says it came from his dad spanking his bottom. I believe my son. That reason why I protecting my son and I had called children service when this had happened but they wouldn't do anything. She and his father are blaming me that I want him in jail. It not me putting him in jail. It the child support agency doing it because he not paying child support. That part not my fault it his. She begging me to drop the child support. Which I am not doing because I lose his insurance cont.

And he won't be able to see his doctor and his medicine for his ADHD. She making me mad. She thinks it not right that I get to stay home and take care of the kids. I get social security and I have disability. Both of my boys are special need and I have alot of doctor appointment that an hour drive. Who would hire someone that ask alot of days off to take my boys to their doctor. I am getting mad want I post to do.. I ready to jump on her and she get out of my buiness. She doesn't know want my life was like. It sure not her buiness.

well, if he isn't paying child support then you need to get it court ordered, however if he deserved a spanking then there
shouldnt be a problem however there is no need to bruise him in the process there various ways to discipline a 6 year old child . the new wife or girlfriend needs to butt out this is none of her business the reason she is sticking her nose in it is because financially it is affecting her and she shouldnt let it this is not her issue . maybe you can talk to your ex calmly , if hes not man enough to talk and be adults and resolve the issues at hand then screw him either way you gotta do what u gotta do no matter what and as a mother its your job to protect him and make sure hes getting everything he deserves as a child from both parents . this sucks for u that hes allowing the new wife to stick her nose in it that just tells me hes a coward and dont wanna face his responsibilities he would rather her deal with it ........ in which if that were me i would want no part of that drama .

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If you have an extra hour a week I would serious enroll in Adult Basic Ed classes. The spelling and grammar used makes it almost impossible to read this tirade. You chose your ex to be the father of your children by having sex with him. Either deal with him or let the courts handle it. But as it stands now neither of you are truly supporting the child. He has no medical insurance. Your disability and social security may seem like an income but they arent. And lack of money is not a legal defense for not taking a child to the doctor. I have a child with epilepsy and a child with ADHD, ODD, and OCD. I know what its like to attend doctors appointments, counseling, and other appointments while working. It isnt that difficult it just takes scheduling and inventiveness. And i stay home taking care of my 3 kids and my husband right now. However, I have an income that affords me to do so. And I am not on a government program for that income.

I think she needs to butt out and mind her own business. Any visitation or custody issues need to be brought up in court and the judge can rule from there. If you and your son's father are having issues then they need to be worked out between the two of you and his girlfriend/wife does not need to be involved. You can arrange it through the court to where his visitation can be supervised only.

Wow, you really need to go back and take some remedial classes just to learn the basics of reading and writing. You will be in a much better position to raise your son if you can speak and write intelligently.

As far as ex's, we just try to stay out of the drama as much as possible. You've done what you could through CPS. I would just ignore any request from them.

Ultimately you and your ex are the parents and the girlfriend needs to step back and let you both parent your children...I must add that both of you are adults and you need to start acting like that...your children are the only ones suffering from this..they see it and hear it...and they will be affected by the fighting and slander...and it is a form of emotional abuse. Not what you want to hear i'm sure but take a minute and take a breath...maybe it's time that you and your ex sit down just the two of you to discuss things if you need another person there for support other than his girlfriend or your new partner then do that but somethings gotta give...it's not healthy to live like that...Keep the child support going it's his duty to help pay for his child. He needs to understand that his the woman in his life now is causing problems and she needs to stay out of it...it's really none of her business.