Plz have a look at my q...need some opinions!!!?

i don't know if my q is weird!!!
but can you really say that if you try to stop loving someone and succeeded same as when someone just suddenly doesn't feel anything for the one she used to love???
as my ex told me that she tried to stop loving me and that now it the case...(by hanging out with other guys and so on)
but i'm trying so hard to do it and move on...
but i just feel that trying to stop loving someone is like lying to yourself!!!
as no matter how bad she hurt me i can't stop loving her,i've told myself so many times that i don't love her anymore but that doesn't work!!!even try to hang out with other girl...but yet my feelings are still here!!
it already 3 months...
and all i see is that she has move on...as she is dating another guy...i don't know how she can do that!!!as once she told me she miss me...but she could still handle not to call me!!!
is it so easy to lie for her or hide her pain??as since she broke up she was acting as if she was so happy!!!

Let me frank with you...it seems like your ex has conditioned herself to feel nothing or she has actually healed and has moved forward.

It seems like you have an unconditional like or love for, and yes you should never try to condition yourself not to feel because trussssssssssssssst me it catches up with you.

I do not know if she has just conditioned herself to not feeling for you and she seems like it is not affecting her through dating other males. But realistically you got to understand is she the kind of person who does not dwell or when you actually broke up she was at the boiling point where she was fed up and was at her wits being unable to take it anymore.

But really just try to take it easy and take life day at a day as it comes, and if you have a good bond with her try not force things with her but keep trying to sustain & maintain the communication you have with her. Just talk about general interest with her and topics you like, but by all means try not dwell or take things back to the past of the relationship you had in terms of feelings.

Try to make her some what some close to you by talking and sustaining the communication by calls once in a while, texting her in the morning to wish her a blessed day and wish her a goodnite sleep in the evening as well as in regards to saying i hope your day went well. Try to do this in good faith, positivity and care..than doing things with negative feeling and tension, also in jealousy of her being with a new partner.

Even in terms of her being with her new partner just hope that she is okay, and if you sense her down do not by all means try to interfere but be the one she can turn too...be encouraging about life...do not emphasis to much on her relationship problems as she will run to her others friends on that note. But just be that bestfriend she will need and in good and bad times will remember...and through building a solid bond and being there for her, she will come to realise how much she is blessed to have you and would want to be with you.

It will be slow and take time...but slow and steday wins the race of a strong a solid relationship/bond.

I HOPE I WAS OF HELP AND WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK ;-).

she doesnt love you. its easy to stop loving someone and to forget about it. you need to give chics a chance, true your ex will be in your head but try to talk to others and hang out get to know others and dont talk or bring up your ex....you'll be suprise how easy it is to forget and you will feel different and happy when you realize it.

Time is the only healer, remember them words, then each day will feel easier. What your bird is doing is making that time seem more quick by dating and enjoying herself in the meantime. You can sit and sulk till ur over her, but id suggest u take ur birds advice and try and have fun the pain will go more smoothly, even if u do hurt at times. Time is the only healer. good luck