Parents what would you do.. /.what is the best way to handle..help..thankyou?

If you received a call from your child school and the vice principal told you that your child with another student鈥檚 help, brought a stink cushion to school..stunk...caused distraction..etc... 鈥?how would you handle it when your child arrives from school鈥lease help me to handle it the best way鈥lease be kind..i am seeking advise form those who are better in handling issues 鈥?br> My son is not suspended nor on detention, but another warning will be on detention. He is 12 years, and going to school tomorrow鈥lease advise and I really appreciate your understanding.

This is when I think grounding is an effective disciplinary action. He has violated your trust and respect. First, I would have a talk with him. Ask him why he thought it would be funny to do such a thing. (In all respects, it's funny, but something that isn't tolerated in a school setting). You need to convey the point that it isn't something that is tolerated in a school setting. You also need to tell him that this action has made him come close to detention, and that shouldn't be acceptable in your household.
First, make him own up to how wrong it was. Ask him questions that make him think about the situation.
Then I would make him return to school and apologize to his teacher, principle/superintendent, and classmates.
Then my grounding would be that he has all fun privilages (i.e. vidoe game, computer, telephone, cellphone, television, hand-held players, and mp3 players) taken away for 2 weeks.
I would also say that he has to come straight home, no playing around with friends (and especially the friend that co-conspired with him) for 2 weeks. Instead, he can do homework and chore lists to do around the house. If you give him an allowance, guess what? Take that away as well for the 2 weeks and he still must do the chores.
Stick to your guns and let him know you are serious.
This may sound too strict, but in reality, you'd best be strict and nip this in the bud before he choses to sneak other things in because the influence of this other friend. Also, discuss these things with him:
His friendship with this other boy: is he really that good of a friend when he gets you in trouble? NO!!
It's ok to say no to this other person, especially when YOU know it's going to wrong and get you in trouble.
And let him know that if he feels like he is being pressured to pull pranks to be cool, that's it's not cool. In the end, you have to follow the school's rules and the adult rules.

I would talk with the teacher first and then have your son write a letter of apology to the class and the teacher and have him read it outloud in front of the class on why it is important to behave in school and not to make distractions as such. Maybe grandma and grandpa or someone very important in his life could attend the special event, as well as yourself.
Good luck... and remember though, kids will be kids.

tell him even though it seems funny to pull pranks on other people, it's not nice and if someone did it to him he wouldn't like it.
Tell him It was bad but you are going to let it go this time but next time he is not only going to be on detention but is oging to be grounded for 3 weeks, having to come home and do homework and find something to do at home because you are taking away video games, computer... etc,,,
you know where i'm going with this.
Good Luck!