've recently been babysitting. That takes up my whole day. But, I ended up quitting on Monday. Here's the story...
I've been watching my best friend's son since last Wednesday. She was only going to pay me $50 for every 7 days that I watched him. Which is pretty lousy. I only agreed to it because she's my friend and I know she can't afford any more than that. It was only supposed to be a temporary thing until I got a real job. I watched him at her house for a few days. But it got to be too much, because of the heat. She has about 4 fans in her house, but no air conditioner. So, I started watching him at my house a few days ago. Kyle and I would go to pick him up at her house and then she would pick him up here after work. Kyle got tired of that pretty quick. Plus this is the last day we have car insurance until we start bringing some real money in. So, when we went to pick him up today I asked her if she would drop him off and pick him up. She said that was okay. Now, I'll tell you right now, her son is the most well behaved baby I've ever seen. He's 5 months old, adorable, always smiles/laughs, never cries, etc. The only problem is that he recently started teething. So, today he cried non stop. I didn't wanna bother my in-laws, so I kept him downstairs in my room all day. It's freezing down there. On top of all this baby stuff, I'm stressed about other stuff, long story. I almost lost my temper today. I didn't wanna yell at a 5 month old, so I had to leave the room. It was mainly that issue that made me decide that I shouldn't be babysitting anymore. I'm afraid of what I might do if someday I couldn't control my anger. Also, I was beginning to realize that the pay just wasn't worth it. So, what I decided to do was tell her that I'd watch him till she got someone else. So, I told her when she came to pick him up and here's what happened...
I explained why I decided not to continue watching him. (left out the part about the pay being low.) I expected she'd be a little mad, but what happened was crazy. She's demanded that I get his stuff, saying that she wouldn't be bringing him back tomorrow. So, I took his stuff to the car. And I got yelled at... She said I shouldn't make commitments unless I can keep them. This wasn't a commitment. We agreed I'd do it till I started working. What would happen if I got a call from one of the places I applied to saying to start work tomorrow?? She also said she had run out of babysitters and thanks to me she's gonna be out of a job. Well, she wouldn't be out of sitters if she'd pay more money. Lastly, I got called a ***** and she said she wasn't going to pay me. I just walked away without saying anything back.
I was pretty furious at first. Then it turned into me being sad. Having lost a friend that I've had for about 5 years. And also, not getting to see my godson grow up. And then anger again. I flew from Cali to be with her for the birth of her son. I sat there the whole time and was even in the room during the C-Section. I stayed with her an extra 2 weeks to help her with him. On top of that, all the stuff I've bought him. She owes me so damn much. The way I see it, she's the one who lost a friend tonight. So, I'm just gonna forget her. But, to further my enjoyment, I'm stopping by her work tomorrow, just to see if she really is out of work. I'll have an excuse to be there, because I applied to that place. I just wanna go up there, order a bunch of food from her and leave. Or call her work anonymously and complain about her. What really ticked me off is that I covered for her. Child services showed up the first day I babysat for her. Someone had called because they were concerned about the baby. If they would've seen her house they would've taken him away. Dishes in her sink were piled as high as they could go. The kitchen had a horrible smell because of it. The bathroom tub was filled with ****, from her dog. there were bugs all over. Garbage all over the floor from her dog tearing into the bags. But, I was her friend and didn't rat her out, not only that I stayed till midnight to help her scrub the place. I should've let them take him. He's better off somewhere else anyway.
Here's a message I ended up sending to her...
I quit watching him because I didn't think I could handle it anymore. I almost lost my temper several times and found myself about to yell at him. But, I held myself back. I didn't think it was right for me to continue caring for him. I thought he deserved someone better than that. I love David as if he were my own, I only wanted what was best for him. I wish you would've just let me explain myself.
I thought you'd be a little mad, but you were way over line. You could find another sitter, but you can't expect someone to do it for $50 a week. I know you're having trouble with money right now, but that's still ridiculous. I only agreed to watch him for that amount because you were my friend. And then you ***** out on my payment.
You call me a *****, well take a good look at yourself. You take everything I do for you for granted. Remember who flew all the way here to be here for David's birth. Who stayed with you in the hospital through all that, helped you take care of him. Spend hundreds of dollars on you and him. I've stood next to you through everything, whether I was in California or not. I kept my mouth shut about you being a slut. How many guys is it now? Can you even remember the number or the names? And the way you treat James. It's obvious you don't wanna be with him, so at least end it, don't keep stringing him along. He deserves so much better than that.
When Child Services came over that day, I should've let them in. I should've let them take him away. Because then David would be somewhere better. So many times I wanted to let him sit on the floor so he'd have room to learn how to crawl. But not on that nasty carpet that your dog has pissed, crapped and threw up on. You don't deserve such an amazing son. All those people who want kids and can't have them. And you didn't even want him. You're barely even home to see him now. He doesn't know who his father is. And thinks every guy he sees is his daddy.
I sit there and keep my mouth shut. Well I'm sick and tired of it. You treat me like **** and I just sit there and take it. I can't believe I've been your friend for this long. Maybe you should come to your senses and give David up for adoption. Do that kid a favor, and get out of his life for good. He's better off not knowing you, and not knowing that he wasn't wanted. He is going to be a great person someday. He'll have so much to offer the world. But, not if he has you for a mother. The dirt poor woman, who's a whore. I'm only state the facts, Melinda. It's about time someone said this stuff to you.
In closing I'd like to say if you are out of a job, I know something you could do...
Be a prostitute, It seems you're very good at sleeping around, might as well get paid for it. I'm sorry for all this. But it is her loss not yours. I must say the messege was a bit...mean.
I mean, was it that necessary to
put her down like that? Even if those
things are true it doesn't give you the
right to point them out, hm? If those
things you say about your ex friend
are true, then I don't think to highly
of her.. It is mostly her fault, but the last sentences of you message was kind of harsh. for one thing, that is a long story ok. i can see where you are pissed off. but do not tell child services. you dont how it feels. i was taken away from my mother when i was 5 and i havnet seen her since and so many times i thought i was going to kill myself and i was only 5!! You have to send her another e-mail and apologize that 1 is only going to make her do disatrous thingd that could put that baby into harm. if she even thinks that your gna call d.s.s se is gona do something bad. She has chosen the wrong path but dont give up on her now does she have anyone else? to lean on or count on???? think about david. just help her out i am ure that yur in-laws are not going t be mad for you trying to nurish a baby so let him crawl around there but dont cross boundaries. people may do bad thihngs but that doesnt always mean that they want to maybe she is in to deep to help herself out so help her and let her know that you love her and her baby and that you are going to do anything in your power to help her. i hope i didnt make you mad and i also hope that it isnt to late. |
