I feel hurt that I wasn't invited to my cousin's bachelorette party.?

I was invited to her shower a month ago and of course I was invited to her wedding next week. However, I wasn't invited to her bachelorette party. I feel hurt because her bridesmaids are my cousins and nobody bothered to even call to let me know. I called my cousin's girlfriend and she even got invited, and received 2 phone calls about it! I always try to be generous by attending their graduation parties, birthday parties, etc., by giving them a card with money or some kind of gift. By talking to people that attended her party, it sounds like I was the only cousin that didn't go. I felt very hurt by this, not only because we are all related, but also because I gave her a generous gift at her bridal shower (which she thanked me for) and I already spent a lot of money for the wedding. I don't know how to handle this situation - should I let it go? should I talk to one of my cousins about it? Should I not be so generous with a wedding gift? Please help, thanks!!!

My cousin just turned 30, and I am 27. The rest of my cousins are younger than me, in the 19-23 age range. So I don't think it's an issue of age. I get along with all of them whenever we get together for a party or event. This is why it puzzles me.

I would feel hurt too. I think if it were me, I would talk to a cousin about it that was at the party - one that you can trust - to get her take on the whole thing first. If you want to continue to have a relationship with your cousin that is getting married, you will probably have to confront her about it too, but perhaps you can get a little insight into the situation first by speaking to the other cousin. Maybe there was something else going on that you dont realize.

And dont say anything to that cousin that you wouldnt want getting back to the one that is getting married, because chances are, she will hear about it.

Are you much older, or more mature (in your demeanor) than them? In my experience, the bachelorette party is for the women in the bride's age group (and maturity level), as it usually gets pretty crazy, and they don't want old fogeys there, messing up their 'fun' especially if they invited a male stripper.

Perhaps you should just ask her why you weren't invited. Depending upon her answer, I would then decide if I wanted to attend her wedding.

Hmm, that does seem strange. Is is possible that your invitation could have gotten lost? Or that not inviting you was a mistake in some way? Were only people from the actual wedding party invited? Did she have an extravagant bachelorette party and maybe think you could not afford it? There are so many "what ifs" in this situation, you'll probably have to ask one of your other cousins (not the bride...yet) what's going on.

I can see why you'd be hurt. Is it possible that she doesn't feel as close to you as she does the other cousins? Or, perhaps the person who did the invitations neglected to call you. I guess, if it were me, I probably wouldn't be as generous with the wed