-.kinda long, but i need help plz. its important.?

First off,Im 15 years old and Im a girl.Well, my father is in my life but we go through our ups and downs as a family.He was out of my life for almost 4 years when I was like 6 to 10.When he returned to me and my mother,he couldnt understand why I was angry at him and I guess he couldnt handle the fact that I was growing,and soon to be a teen.Me and my mom always bickered back and forth,but I was angry at her because I didn't know who to be angry with during the time he was away.Me and my mom both understand this, but he cant seem to accept it.I had behavior problems during the time he was gone and when he came back.There were times when my mom and I would get into arguements and he would hit/threaten to hit me.Ive forgiven him for all of this,but Im still not the happiest or the closest to him.Especially,after what happened on my 13th birthday.I was hanging with my bestfriend/family,and he stepped out.He didnt say where he was going,didnt spend time with me.He came back home almost 3 days later and my mom had found out that he was cheating.I felt like he cheated on me also.I was hurt because he did it on a day when he should have been spending time with ME, not some other woman that he met on a bus stop and her kids.I talked to him while he was gone and he said that it was my fault.Then,I recently found out that it was 鈥渟o-called鈥?for other reasons that they 鈥渃ant disclose with me鈥?But,I feel that it is my fault that he did that to my mother and I still take the blame.Well,recently,hes been coming home really late and I caught him and my mom talking about how he doesnt answer when we call him.He got angry with my mom and today,he came home really later than normal.I asked my mom where was he, and she said she didn鈥檛 know.Inside, I am angry but I dont want to show it.I feel like hes doing it all over again.He came in, didn鈥檛 speak to my mom, me, and went straight to bed.Im just pissed because Ive never done anything to him.He鈥檚 done everything to me.What should I do?Im not actually sure that he did anything today,but I have a gut feeling that he wasn鈥檛 at work.We were just getting along and everything,and now hes acting like this.He always tells me that he would never hurt my mom and that he respects her,but he lied to me,because he hurt me,and he weakened our relationship even more.

You need a stronger bond with your dad. I could relate about what you feel like, only my dad and mom were gone for 2 years. Which is far worse because I almost grew up not recognizing them.

Have some father-daughter time. Tell him how much you've been hurt for what he's doing.

Here are some reasons why men cheat,

they feel as if they are not respected, and your dad my just have cheated, because you were angry at him, and didn't accept it and felt as if you and your mom don't respect him anymore.

That maybe the reason why cheated.

But still you need to talk to him, tell him that life was hard growing up not being that close to him.

BTW, physical abuse to minors are illegal, if he continues what he's doing to you, call the police or any organization related to this matter.

Also don't forget to have a family bond between you and your family.
Always pray and persevere...

There's always light at the end of the tunnel... =]

GOOD LUCK and HOPE THIS HELPED... =]

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I'm so sorry you are having a hard time, and it's rough when our parents act like they are five years old.

Your father ABANDONED you years ago, without a care, and suddently reappears... i can't imagine why your mother would take accept him back into your lives...

Now he is abandoning you again from time to time, he is secretive, angry and generally a pain in the a ss. From where i sit, you don't deserve to be treated this way, or to live in chaos.

Not one bit of this is ever your fault. It's YOUR FATHER'S FAULT and YOUR MOTHER'S fault for taking his dumba ss back....

So now, i suppose you need to accept it. In the meantime, i highly suggest talking with your school guidance counselor. You have to be totally confused. I would be and i'm 51 years old!

Please please consider talking with the school counselor. If she feels you need further help, i'm sure she could arrange a meeting with your mom and you could talk to her together. It's a VERY GOOD THING to get help... we all need help from time to time.

Your father doesn't respect your mother. He doesn't even respect himself. It's too bad.

I went through something si