Am I being a hypocrit about my daughter's father?

So I have an almost six year old daughter and her father hasn't seen her in three years. He only calls his mother and never calls me and his mom said when he calls she has to ask him if he wants to say hi to her cause he never asks volunteerily (my daughter stays with her during the week cause i work and go to school). Anyway he called his mother and told her that he needs to come to New York cause he beat some guy up who wash trying to rob him and broke the guy's arm (he was a third rank soldier in the army). I'm happy that after all these years my daughter will finally get to spend some time with her father ( he stayed in Kansas after he left the military) but I'm upset because this is what it took for him to come home to his daughter. He's not coming cause he misses his daughter he's coming cause he is trying to get away from his situation. It's just like him to run when things are too much for him to handle. So how do I maintain my cool when I see him when i am so angry with him.

I' happy for my daughter but upset with him for coming for a reason other that his child. Am I a hypocrit?

You aren't hypocritical, you have a right to feel strongly about a dropout like him which is what he is to think that it is in order for him to shirk his responsibilities and only come back because he is in the risk of getting in trouble, do you think that he would have come if it was you who were in trouble?.
Why does he pretend to wants to see YOUR DAUGHTER, he has no right to her, he has been away and as far as he cares she might not exist, or he would be there providing for you both.

No.
But really, be honest with yourself. Its up to you to choose.
Now, If what you did thought was the best for your daughter, then you did the right thing.

Goood Luck :)

You may think anything you like, but as my wife says about her ex....never forget that's 50% of your child. EVEN IF he isn't the best father, he's her father. Would you tell your child she is 50% crap? Of course not, on purpose.

Be careful not to let her see how angry you are. SHE didn't have a choice in the matter. If he chooses not to see her, you need to be doubly reassuring of how precious and loved she is.

Just keep telling yourself that it's good for your daughter, she'll be able to see her father over and over and over. Keep your cool around him and in front of her. Then find a good friend and you can vent all of your frustrations when your child isn't around to hear them. :)

Are you sure that he broke the guys arm because he was being robbed? If that's the case he shouldn't be in trouble where he is and shouldn't have to run away. He doesn't have a history of violence does he?

I don't blame you for being angry that it took him getting in trouble to want to be bothered with his own child. I don't think it's hypocritical at all that you have mixed feelings. I think that what would bother me more is that once the trouble has blown over he will probably be out of her life again unless he develops an attachment to her, and that's not fair to her to have no daddy, then have a daddy, then he dumps her again. Poor child.