Dating a guy who doesn't have much time for me due to work?

He barely calls. I do most of the calling.He doesn't always respond.Says he's busy or tired or something.He keeps making plans with me all the way up to Halloween. So I know he wants me.That and he's all over me when we do get to hang.

I'm just not sure if I can handle a guy who works so much that he doesn't have time even for his friends.

I know they say relationships are hard but I sometimes want to give up on us.Despite all the plans we're making.

What is the best thing to do when a guy's work and friends seem more important to them?

I sometimes feel like he won't break up with me but prefers if I did it.Most girls can't handle him.I've put up with him far longer than the girls in the past and I'm his first real gf.

I sent him a text today saying I hope he has a good day at work and I miss him.To which he responded with that he'll call me today.We went from spending just the weekend together to every day. to the weekend.Then one week we didn't hang at all.Then to once a week.Due to his changing work schedules.It's only once a week because he says he's too tired.. his excuse when he doesn't respond back is I fell asleep .

The way I see it- If I had a really busy schedule, a phone call everytime I get a break would be the highlight of my day. I would never be too busy to forget to call him at least to say hi. What can you do? You could stop calling him, let him be the one to reach you. See what happens, if he doesn't communicate often then talk to him or just tell him. Maybe he doesn't know that he is upsetting you. Guys are clueless sometimes. Go from there and if you don't see a change, make a decision in regards to your relationship.

I work an insane schedule and am single because of it. This guy may be busy too but, if he was interested he would find the time.

Look at the situation as a whole. Does it appear things will stay as they are, or will his work situation improve in the foreseeable future?

If there's a good chance things will change for the better with regard to his amount of free time, and you two really like each other, then it may be worth hanging in there and riding this out...if all you can see in the future is more of the same (and he indicates to you things are unlikely to change in the next up to 12 months) then you may want to thank him for his time, and move on.

Only you know what is acceptable to you. A guy I'm VERY interested in and myself are in a kind of similar situation. We got involved last Summer and right away his work hours increased as well as obligations outside of work. We went from spending personal time together once a week, to zero for the past 8 months. We see each other frequently and do communicate some, but it's not private time. He indicates he's still interested but hasn't had time for a relationship...I don't know for sure if I'm being strung along or if we will get the chance to re-explore a relationship. I'm not "waiting" for him but no other opportunities that have appealed to me have passed my way since we met so I'm here wondering what will happen, and wishing if he wasn't interested anymore he'd just tell me to my face so I could accept the sting, close myself to the situation emotionally, and just not think/wonder about it anymore.

It's frustrating when you like someone, but don't really know where you stand in their priority list or what the future may hold...isn't it? Argh! 鈽衡櫏鈽?/div>

• 2 weeks ago