How to deal with an ex's emotional/verbal abuse??

I'm in a situation where I must be in direct contact with my ex at least a few times a week. We had a child together, so I have to deal with him directly at pickups and dropoffs during visits. sometimes he's nice and doesn't say much, if anything to me. but Most of the time, he calls my fiance names, makes false claims about my parenting skills and straightout disregards any suggestion or question about my son. He frequently brings up dirt from our past, and my past while playing the victim and criticising me for my actions. I am trying desperately to have access exchanges take place at a supervised access center, but it may be a few months (if at all) before this takes place. In the meantime how do I handle this sort of thing, personally? within myself? I'm pregnant and dealing with alot of emotions and hormones to begin with, let alone all of his BS on top of it. stresses me right out and makes me quite depressed. I want to get a note from my OB saying I shouldn't be around him.

Wow...that's crappy. I had a similar problem with my ex years ago and it was miserable. Honestly, she never got over the anger.

My best advice...and this is tough, I know...simply stay away from any interaction that isn't necessary---easier than it sounds!!!! I'm guessing that your child is fairly young and your suggestions are naturally for his well-being.

Still, the anger will cause him to make it as miserable as he can for you. It's almost like you have to put yourself into a "zone" before your meetings--it takes a lot of practice but trust me, it's do-able.

It shouldn't be this way, but he doesn't care.

Very best to you.

Make sure you have everything ready when you make the child exchange. Don't talk to him. Switch the child and go. He does this because you LISTEN.. Dont' listen.. just switch and go. Unless there is a need to discuss something about the child.. you DON"T have to talk to him or listen to him. Yes dear him to death.. just don't listen. If you have a friend that would "play" the access center.. try that for a bit. He most likely won't say anything in front of them. Good Luck.

the days when you don't have to see him at all, you have to completely mentally block him out. the days when you have to be face to face with him, be mentally prepared in advance, have a smile on your face when you see him, carry on, and be yourself. if he tries to bully you, pleasantly cut the conversation, and start talking about light stuff, like weather, entertainment, news, something light. basically, treat him like he is not a big impact in your life. good luck.