That's odd....why didn't he mention her?

Okay, I have been friends with this guy for almost our whole lives. I'm now 28 and he's 25. We've kept in touch, although he's now an Air Force pilot and travels everywhere. He and I have both been engaged to other people at one time or another, but have never had a relationship although I have always liked him.

He never knew my feelings until early last year. We discussed it, but he said he was unsure if I could handle his career. We kept it open-ended, talking but going on dates with others.

Then we stopped talking for a few months, life gets in the way.

We finally got back in touch last month. We discussed life, changes and updated each other.

Then he called me awhile ago to discuss some surgery that he knew I was going to have, but he's been out of the country for awhile. Then he mentioned his girlfriend had just come in the door. I said "You got a girlfriend?" he said "Yea." I said "When did that happen?" he said "...about 6...7 months ago." I said "That's cool."

He didn't tell me about her when we talked last month at all. He even talked about a house he had bought, but never mentioned a girl. Although, I had mentioned a guy I was dating.

I don't get that, I was caught off guard and probably sounded surprised, I'm sure.

Why wouldn't he tell me?

Yeah, guys communicate differently. This might be totally innocent, or like your other com-mentors to your question have mentioned, your a back up in case this one doesn't work out.

This sounds like a situation right out of a comedy movie My Best Friend's Wedding (I think that's the name) with Julia Roberts and Carmen Diaz! Julia Roberts ends up making a fool of herself!

I would focus on you and your relationships with people near you. Stop calling him so much. Sometimes playing hard to get ends up in your favor.

Personally, I do not think men are that mature at 25. Sure they date, have a steady girlfriend, then if something better comes around--well, you know what happens.

Good luck to you. There are a lot of great guys out there, sometimes taking a break from the dating scene, hanging out with girlfriends, charity work, will change you for the better!
I know, I know, some woman think that they need a man at their side to complete them, but this is simply not true. Guys respect girls when they are not so needy.

I still like my play hard to get comment though. Call him less often and see what happens!

Good Luck!

Why should he tell you? You are just friends, nothing more. Women, when chatting with each other tend to tell all. Men on the other hand tend to be more reserved and aren't into the kiss and tell syndrome.

Your interest in a romance with him is one sided. He told you when you mentioned it, in a nice way, that he wasn't interested. If you want to be his friend that is fine. Get the romance idea out of your head.

Maybe he didnt tell u cause u told him ur feelings towards him. He could very well of liked u but thoguht it could never work. Just behappy ur friend for a long time in ur life is happy im sure he is happy u havea bf too. Stay in touch he sounds like a good friend and there hard to come by, HE should of told you though thats my opinion.