Can you help me please?

Okay, well, there is this guy that I went out with for a while...7 months or so...
And, so on Feb. 11, he dumped me. [Aww...right before V-day too!]

And now he is spreading all this crap about me ever since I started going to church....I can't stand the stuff he is saying!
His friends don't even know me and none of them talk to me, and they are always calling me a ***** behind my back, and it's really depressing.
He has broken my heart several times, and I don't think my heart can handle it anymore. I think it's about to rip in half....for good....I don't like him anymore, but I can't see why he just can't get over his immature self-absorbed self....

I've confronted him, and I guess that just didn't work. I need some help here. I don't want to go to my mom about it because it seems like she's already involved with every other thing that I do.

Please help me....I'm really sad...and he needs to stop.
Thanks.


~:Danielle

First of all take a deep breath.

I know it is hard to go through all this with boys but the best thing to do is ignore it. Just stop. Don't talk to him, don't talk about him, don't talk to his friends, don't care what his friends say about you. You know your not a *****, so why care what they say? Words do hurt but try to make them not hurt. Try to ffind someone else. Talk to other guys or just hang out with your friends. It is great being single, you don't have to worry about what your boyfriend think, you get to be free. But I think that you are over him just hurt by all his words he and his friends have/had said. If they see you upset and/or sad, as awfull as it might seem, they are happy. With you sad/upset they think they achieved something. But show them that they are wrong. If they say something to you ignore it or just say," Yah, I'm a ***** Got a problem with that?" I say the best thing is to just ignore it. But if your like me I would say the 2nd option. lol. Just remember these people are just going to fly by your life.

I hear ya sweetie. After a while it just gets really old.
You said that you started going to church. Could you have a talk with your pastor, maybe he/she can help.
Maybe you need to confront him again, this time with backup, like a friendly football player.
Another thought is to pray about it. Tell God how you feel about this and let Him deal with this guy. He has His ways you know.

you shouldn't let his opinions and his bullying bother you (I know easier said than done)....he is probably just jealous because alot of people want to be close with god but they just can't...they don't have the time to go to church, they think they will be mocked, they don't fully beleive even though they want to...he could be jealous that you are trying to connect with god. Or he could just be an asshole