How should i handle the situation with my husband and his daughter?

i recently posted a question on here explaining how my husband's kids are so mean to him when he will not give them money. i explained how his daughter only calls on fridays and ask her father for money and if he says he dosent have it she gets mad, yells at him and hangs up in his face. she treats him like dirt and talks to him disrespectfully when he says no to her. well last week she had a dentist appointment and we often text each other. so i texted her and asked her "would you like me to give you some huggs and kisses before you go to the dentist". she flat out rudely texts me back and says "no". i said okay and i texted her back " you dont have to be mean to me just because you love your father more than me". she texts me back and says " that is my father what do you expect?" i was only joking with her those two times i texted her i was trying to be supportive. i told her father about how mean she was to me. (to be continued).

i told him to just let it go and dont confront her about it. he never said anything to me about the incident so i let it go to. well for the past week she has been extremely bitter toward him everytime he calls her. so finally she says to him to day, " you never do what i ask you to, you never spend any time with me and you dont have time for me". i have constantly told my husband to take some time and take his daughter out just the two of them without me but for some strange reason he refuses to. so today i told him you should take every other weekend and spend it with your daughter just the two of you and you spend every other weekend with me because she hurt my feelings and it is clear that she resents me and blames me for her father for not following her rules. he get mad as hell with me. so i said i dont want to be around your daughter anymore for a while she is very nasty and disrespectful and i will not tolorate it. she will not treat me like she treats you. (to be continued).

You didn't say their ages, nor where they live...by themselves with mom or whatever... but sweetie, first,
1. This daughter is not YOUR problem, it is his, and further, the problem is not this daughter, it is your husband!!!!

He gets what he allows, and he has allowed his ungrateful sh(ITTT) of a daughter to tell him(??????????) what to do? Hon, it is HE who needs the counseling, not her, and it is YOU who need to step aside after you break this news to him.

Hate to be the bearer of bad news, but alas, 'tis true.

For yourself, opt out of any interaction with her,--don't text her, don't talk to her nothing!!!!! and frankly, I have no language of how to tell your husband that it is HE who needs to grow some balls in dealing with this brat. However, she became this way because she was allowed to do so.... by him.

It's a common problem.... dads hate to tell their little girls, "no", and further, there is no way you, yourself can ever get this girl to like you --- not today, not tomorrow, not ever.
She is bereft of the capacity to honor you or your opinions or your kindnesses and in large degree this is because of her upbringing..... by her father.

After you have accepted that, and internalized it, you can see that you are helpless to get anywhere with her....ever. Put your efforts elsewhere, and draw a line thru her name...and eliminate her from any and all of your lists.

PSSST. I read the rest of it... and it all just confirms what I already wrote. Opt out hon, opt out.

I would just have to give her space. She is treating you like that because you are not her mother and her parents are not together. That resentment ususally goes away and his attitude toward his kids is prob a reason why he is not with her mother.

...I'd back off, give the girl some space. She'll eventually accept you and come around when she realizes you're not trying to force it.

I think your husband needs to put his daughter in her place if you are married that means you have say so on everything just as well as your husband. Good Luck!

ok... how old is that girl?? Listen, it's ok to be jelous of your own parents but it's not so ok to act like a spoiled brat. Your husband needs to talk to her and tell her she has to respect you. I'm ki