Why does separation/divorce feels so painful??

I just came from a barbcue cookout with my nephew, where there was 2 divorced girls. One at 28 yrs old and another at 39 yrs old. The one of 28 said she was married for 10 yrs and she was talking how she was in an abusive marriage to the point of almost commiting suicide and the other of 39 yrs old, I myself talk to her, that her husband would call her stupid and phsically beat her up! When these two divorce women talked about how their marriage failed, I was just about to cry deep inside of me. It was so sad and depressing, from what they said. Because here I am in between these two lovely ladies, hearing all the sad, unsuccessful marriage life of theirs. I was thinking to myself the misery that I am going thru with my own wife. Separation and divorcing is extremely very sad and depressing to me. Big time! I cannot handle this emotional pain, of separation and divorce. Especially my 3 adorable children. I also heard from my nephew's wife, that she might end up divorcing also...

because of the her abusive husband [my nephew]. This is sad, depressing and painful for me. It hurts me deep inside to just think of leaving my current wife and eventually finding another woman, with children that are not mine. Thanks Everyone!!

the reason why seperation and divorces are so pain is because when you get married to that person on your wedding day you both take serious vows and you think that you are going to be together with this person and grow old with them. to think of your wedding day, the day you meet this person and start dating them you were seriously in love. (that is for most of us). i would tell you not to divorce your wife. god will fix a marriage before he lets it go astray and brake off. it says in the bible that god hates divorce so you think you would be better off divorcing this person instead of staying with them trying to work things out? well your wrong! if people would pay attention to jesus in their time of need there would not be so many divorces i know this from experience. i was seperated from my husband last year for 3 months, may not be long for others but it was long for me. i turned to god in prayer and i did not see anyone else during that time. in novermber of last year my husband called me up and told me that he did not want us to get a divorce and he did not want to leave me so i moved back in with him in the middle of november 2007 and we have not had any problems since. sometimes it takes just seperation from that person and then you will see if that person is really right for you. how you know that is if they come back to you like my husband did or if they take you back. if it gets bad for you just seperate for a while and give her her space as well as yours and see how she reacts without you and then you will know if this marriage is really worth fighting for. best wishes!

im talking from my owm experience...just divorced since 5thdec.2007...after 18 yrs of marriage, my wife asked for this divorce...i fully believed she had affairs extramarital...it hurts me because i gave my heart to this woman and the marriage...i worked hard for it..i think it hurts to see what one did to his best was wasted....it also hurts because i feel being used and just a nobody.....now that im looking for a new partner because i dont want to be alone, i believe i am seeting a criteria : faithful woman next time.....

it feels painful because it is painful; most people don't get married thinking they will be divorced.......

grieving is a part of divorce - coming to terms with your own failure is part of it