Is my marriage over?

Hi hubby and I had a big argument just 鈥榗ause I spent 200 dollars without asking telling him first I do make 80% of the income and I think if I spent 200 on myself every once in a while it shouldn鈥檛 be an issue so he called me liar and said he doesn鈥檛 know if he could trust me with money I mean he is the one who handles the bills and he wants to do that I let him do it and he could have that power. Anyhow after he done calling me a liar and un-trust worthy and after he just opened a new account and he wants me to send 50% of what I make and my name is not going to be on the new account I told since you don鈥檛 think I鈥檓 trust worthy why don鈥檛 we just get divorce I asked him to divorce me and that I will take our 2yr old son with me and I don鈥檛 even want child support from him or anything since he never wants to deal with him or take care of him anyway I do all the household work and make most money and take care of our child. Yes I asked to divorce me his response was so I鈥檓 not going to make it easy for you and he said let鈥檚 be separated so we help each other pay the bills.

In every relationship the problem mostly start with miscommunication. That is why in every marriage both parties the husband and wife must always open their two lines of communication. Must be patient enough to listen and understand reason made by each other. They have to met in the middle. There are times that you need to read between the line in order to understand the situation.
Your 2-3 yrs of marriage relationship is only in the stage of what is called in marriage the Marriage Adjustment Period. It is in this stage that many problem, misunderstanding are incoutered. Yet it is only through the strength of your Love for each other that can determain the proper solution in every problems you've met along the way.. Without this no marriage can survived..

Let us break the whole big problem into pieces that we can discect..

In marrage according to the Bible Gen. 2:24 The man leaves his father and mother and is united with his wife, and they become one. In your marriage the two of you become one and all that you have as will as what he have become one. What is his is yours and what is yours is his. These does not matter whether you had put more money than him. Yes it look like that it is unfair on your part that you have to put more for the family encome and can not spent what you think you are intittled to..
Sorry to say, these way of thinking is only for the unmarried but not for two individual which are bind by marriage's promises " in sickness and in health for better and for worst untill death do you part ".

Correct me if i am wrong that when he call you liar and un-trust worthy with the money - you had already made an aggreement before -- about what you shall do with each others encome.

Although it is wrong to call you a very strong word such as a liar and un-trust worthy specially when this was the first time you violated the rules, but this does not make you either correct in spending 200 dollars without asking him first . It is a matter of respect of the agreement you've made with him. It is also a very important for a proper encome buggeting.
Note: As long as he does his part of the bargain then he is correct and fair with his disation and action.

When the money is scares or when the money put into the family encome is just enough or berlly enough to pay all then bills, food, clothing & etc. will make the one who handles the buddgeting ruttles and of a very short tempered. Which might result to many unpleasnt, unmeaned words to easly scape from the mouth of the person.

When he did not agree with the divorce i can see it's because he stell loves you. He still hopes that your marriage can still be save. Anyway for him it is just a matter of money and money can be found.

Although I don't agree with him completely in openning new account without your name included. and i feel that this is not quite right.. So start openning your line of communication.
You can suggist to him that your two name are included in the account but no body can withdraw without the conscent of the both parties. Remenber he only need 50% of your encome to be put into the account if it will not change. So I belive that it is very fair propossition.

Remember that the money saved in the account is for both of you.

I hope that I am able to enlightened you in anyway

God bless

What were things like in your household BEFORE the argument? May be your marriage is only over if you want it to be over but if this is a one-off row and everything else is fine then perhaps you should compromise and try to resolve the argument together like mature adults. You need to do this for the sake of your son if nothing else.

it all about you i guess.threaten to take the kids,is that all women have?who cares who makes the most blah blah money. you know if it was him that had spent the money the same thing would have happened.you would have said i want a divorce and im taking the kid.just quit with the yammering all the time the kid hears that.that's a bad influence