LADIES, how do you know when to call it quits when trying to work things out with an ex??

I am trying to work things out with my ex and trying to get back together with her, but things dont seem as good as expected. She doesnt pay as much attention to me as before we broke up and she has changed alot, shes not as nice as before as she is more straight forward. but she says she still loves me alot but shes scared to get hurt, and want to take things slow. Whenever we talk on the phone the goodbyes are more friendly than anything, whenever i go down to see her ( i have to travel 3 hours everytime to see her as she lives in a different city from me) its not the same as before. Can you ladies tell me when to call it quits before i hurt myself, i really love this girl to death, but i dont want to get hurt again because when she left me it was the most painful thing i ever felt in my entire life and i never want to go back to that pain again. It feels as if shes not trying as hard as i am to be affectionate . Please help.

How long ago was it when you broke up? If it was fairly recent, maybe you're both still hurting and on the rebound ya know? Like you think you still want each other but it's really wrong. Or even if there was no "rebound" person in between it can feel like that.
Anyway, she's not trying as hard for sure. She's confused I think. She doesn't know if she should get back with you or not.
I think you should call it quits and try to move on.

Did you do something bad to her since she also says she is scared to get hurt? It might have something to do more with you than with her? Just be honest with her and tell her you love her and want her in your future. If she sounds confused, give her time. When someone really loves someone there is no ifs ands or buts.

give her space and time to think what she wants, you as well if you had both done that and you both really love each other
you'll be back before you know it

tell her clearly what you want to do..if you really love her and sadly she didn't like to get back you would be happy if she's happy right..

if in case you are afraid to loose her would you take something less than you deserve?

hey from a guys pov she isnt worth the time b/c shes not the same girl u went out with. id call it quits now and move on.. quick b/c the more time u spend hung up on her is the more time u will not feel... attached to other woman. just move on now. give it one more call and if it dosent work move on b4 u get hurt

I think she is over you and she is your ex for a reason.. things will probably never work out, its like trying to fix something with glue thats just going to give again. Something was lost in the relationship, prob the compatibility factor. Love should flow not have to be forced.

It sounds like she's letting you down easy. Don't know why your broke up, but it's really hard to get back what you once had. I'd say move on, she just may be using you until she finds someone else. It doesn't seem she's comfortable with you anymore, and you can only do so much.

it may be hard to hear...or see i guess but she isn't into you as much as she was before and dwelling on what was then and what is now isn't helping. moving on is the best thing to do. i've been here before you just have to move on and find someone else.

When you are sorry to see them come and glad to see them go.
Why did she leave you, ask yourself and be truthful (most people will not admit they were wrong.) If she no longer wants to be your lover, there must be a reason. How badly is she hurting inside.

tell her what you told us, you know her and she knows you more than anyone can know
don't try to assume things either it's between both of you, both your replies, be honest and see what she says
assuming things will make your head explode

If your on here asking this question, it seems you really already know what to do. It will be easier on your heart if you let go. Maybe later if it is meant to be, you two will find each other again. Once bit, twice shy.

Maybe shes still hurting inside.
you never know.
talk to her and ask if everythings okay.
If you love her youll take a scarafix.
Love is a painful thing.
It does hurt.
thats really all love does to you.
GOOD LUCKKKK!!!!!!!!!

If you are asking yourself this questions, then you already know the answer is that it is time to cut the ties and move on -- people don't "Change"

First of all your EX is your EX why would you even think about working things out, shes considered your X work things out with your Love one your new LOVE.
what a waste of time asking us!!!!geeeesshhhh

What? She dumped you before? Sounds like an old story out of my life. Sorry, but it doesnt like its going the right direction

You know when you remember why you broke up in the first place.

when u have to come to yahoo and ask that question is is time to call sit quits, sorry to be so blunt but its the truth

When staying hurts more than leaving.

when you have 2 come on here for answers...relationships are not ment 2 be that hard or make you feel sad

quit when you stop loving her. im like that. give her a kiss and shell understand ur 4real and shell feel safe aruond you

honestly, you need to sit down IN Person and talk to her about it.

let her know that if she's not into you then she needs to be upfront about it, cause it sounds like you giving your everything and it desont sound like she is doing the same in return. and if you realized that she has changed and You arent the one thats willing to make it work then thats something that you need to address, mybe you guys will be best friends. maybe you better off.

best of luck :D

just ask her....once and for all so things will be clearly settled...
she is your x...you should learn to be straight forward in everything....she is not naive and innocent about you,,,, so ask....Do i have any chance of getting you back....answer just yes or no.....if she is explaining a lot of thing...like not ready yet for you,,,,afraid to be hurt...blah...blah.....blah.....then she is getting into something...she is quite interested...so good luck then...... specially when she's not involved with someone else.... so court her again as you once did before....good luck

If this gurl is putting u though all this is don't deserve u cuz that is not fare to u and to me u don't deserve to get treated this ways and sence she really put no effort to have a friend ship with u.. and to me i would call it a quits and it maybe hard put it wuld happen sooner or later and. Sooner is better then later cuz i have been helping a lot of people with the same thing almost and i will try t help u as much as posable.. hope this help.. but do wat ever u think is right..

This depends on what caused the break up in the first place. Did you do something wrong or did she or was it mutual or did one of you just need space? If you did something to cause her to leave you (ie. cheating) I would say suck it up if you love her and give her time to get past it. If she did something and decided to leave you (ie. out of guilt) then I would say confront her on it. Ask her how long she plans to behave this way. I really don't believe her leaving was mutual, because it usually isn't so I won't leave a response for that. If it was a space thing...that one is simple, and sorry for this but if one of you says they just need space it means they just want to have sex with someone else.