Is he/will he be violent?

Hey my guy seems to be showing signs of tryinto control me.

He calls anything upto 8x a day, texts the same amount

if i miss a call, and dont reply to a text within 20 minutes he will call sounding p*ssed off.

the other night, he came over to mine which isnt often (i go to his) and we were on my computer. i showed him a goofy pic of me and a guy who bumped heads, and he saw that i also took another pic of this guy with his friend and he switched on me!
he asked loads of questions, keep in mind this dude was like a total stranger - then all of a sudden, my man got me ina tight headlock, but my head was going backwards rather than forwards as i was sitting on his lap. It was pretty tight to say it was messing around. whilst in the lock he was askin more questions. i laughed if off and he eventually released the lock.

hes mentioned b4 if i cheat on him, he would do some messed up stuff - he said for me to think of the worst thing to happen to me, & thats what would happen..

and he said, even me talkin bout it (at that moment) make him wanna do something...

its usually in short bursts, but i swear he just switches, like jekyll and hyde, we can be laughin one moment, and if i mention something that touches his weak spot his face will change his eyes lock onto mine...

i really like this guy, we have great laughs, we go out, hes very attentive, and attractive (he could have any girl he wants he is charming) has moeny etc...i'm 21 hes 28...

is this signs of a violent relationship - hes my 2nd proper relationship so i need some advice, preferabley from those experienced in relationships

thanks x

If you're already concerned, you probably have reason to be. You listed a lot of red flags. Also, he has already threatened you. He's been pretty straightforward with his intentions, it seems to me.

is he by polar ?
if not he seems like he may abuse you

be careful around him ,that isnt normal and you diserve better


good luck

he is violent.maybe he needs a shrink for his temper or something.the way he is treating you isnt right.

Don't think anyone can claim to be experienced in relationships,especially ones they are not in themselves.However,I will venture this...go now,get out.You already know this yourself.Why ask strangers?You justify being with him using irrelevant information.There is no reason to be with someone you are nervous of on a physical level.He is obv nuts.In fact,I think the age gap between you..being two people in your twenties is v significant.The guy likes kids,not his own age group.Just go.Pack up your laptop and other stuff.Be gone by five tomorrow and just let that be an end to it.Head lock my ****.

Sounds like he wants to mold you into something he wants. He doesn't love you for who you are and he sounds like he doesn't trust you. He will put you in a situation and then blame you. Then when he does do something to you, of course he will be sorry but it was still your fault. After the first time, there will be more and it will get worse. Yes, he wants to control you and make you his puppet. Then when he has, he will resent you. Doesn't that sound crazy or what. I was married to a guy like that. My therapist said, never ever trust him. That was 35 yrs ago. and to this day he still tells our daughter that someday we will be together again. He does not know where I live, nor my number.....NOTHING. If he were to ever pull up in front of my home, I would be calling the police and asking questions later. Yes, I've had restraining orders on him too. Oh, and by the way, he wasn't like that before we were married and it came on gradually. Scary, oh yeah. If I were you, I would run. Good luck.