Revenge is best served cold!!For the ladies only!!!OK men too!!!?

I will try 2 shorten as much as poss. My sister lost her husb in Iraq this past Jan so I went up to AZ to spend time with her. I live in San Diego. During this time I was sep from my spouse for 7 months and had just begun the div proc when I met a guy while visiting my sis in az. We imm. hit it off and spent the rest of the night chatting and laughing. I was always hon about my situation from day one. Soon after my dude and I "i use the term dude losely" started talking everyday on the phone and he would fly me up almost every wkend when I didn't have to wk. It was awesome bc is was nothing hidden and I always kept it 100 with him. Fast forward to June and by this time we had grown to be very close and considered ourselves grt friends who really had love for one anoth. So...I get this call out the blue one day asking who I was and if I knew a guy named Larry, I said no bc I didn't know a guy named Larry. Something never sat rt with me about my dude but I still let it go. A few days

later I begin to think about diff events that had taken place and some things that were odd, but since we weren't serious I never felt the need to dig further. So I call my friend who wks at cing and have her look up his numb...low and behold Larry Asshole pops up on her screen. Keep in mind this is not the name he had given me. So I call the numb back and ask the chick to describe the "Larry" she had calld me about. My mind went ****** blank...He had given me a fake name, the guy who was supp to be the realist dude on earth had been lying but the worst was yet to come. He did tell me he had to kids but the oldst ones mother was killed in a car acc when she was 4m. So the girl tells me she found my numb on her HUSBANDS phone YES her HUSBAND, I was ****** speechless. still not the worst. He did have two kids but both by her and the story about the first childs mom being killed was a lie. When she out him on the phone he pretended like he didn't even know me and I was playing a joke

...move on and forget his ways, move on.
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listen to this song it explains your situation to a tee.

big hawk-chillin wit my broad.

That really sucks but she will believe his lies if she wants to,...which it sounds like she does. Leave him alone and let her deal with her mess.

That really really sucks! The wife is in denial. Don't know why when you clearly have proof. I'd let it go. He's a loser.

So whats your question?

Chin up - you were real and honest about who you are - and you had no control of his shameful behaviour. Feel sorry for his wife - also, she might be interested in any details you can give her about your relationship with him.

Be careful about revenge - so far you are on the high road. Don't sink to his level. He's a creep and you are a brave person who took a chance with your heart. That's living and sometimes it does not work out. But sometimes it does and then it is the best thing ever.

some men can keep convincing their women of lies over and over. He's obviously a gifted liar.
I would put an ad in his local paper.There is also a website out there that lists guys that are dogs.
Did you take any pictures while you were together? That would be perfect. There surely must be SOME detail that you can share with his wife that would convince her that you are telling the truth.
While I agree with the people who say to heal ,get over it and move on, I KNOW myself and I would not be able to rest knowing that he not only had no consequences for his behavior, but actually made YOU look like the creepy one!
oooo I hope you think of something good. He deserves it! Just don't do anything illegal, he is SO not worth getting in trouble over.
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i'm happy you found out he was married although it was a crazy way..if you weren't using protection i suggest you get checked out honey...his stupid wife will later find out what kind of man she has!

I think you should set your goal to "HEAL" from this horrible betrayal - revenge will not ease your pain or anger. Actually it may fan the flames. This is not a person that you want anywhere on your radar. Focusing on healing yourself means putting him where he belongs.... in the garbage can in the back of your mind. May take time, this was a real doozy, but heal, heal, heal.

He's a pig - all you can really do is learn from this - oh, and tell the wife whatever she wants to know.
His wife is in denial - not your problem - move on and never look back.

He's made some pretty bad karma for himself, and at some point he will get his. Don't mess with your own karma by doing anything to get revenge. Take some time to get yourself together and heal and live your life well. In time, this guy won't matter in the least.

What's your question? You were dooped. Get over it and don't make the same mistake again.

You haven't added details yet, so I'll assume Larry is your "dude". He's a player and its sad. Now you know. You were honest, but he wasn't. Then again you were separated, he apparently wanted the best of both worlds, so honesty would have ruined that for him. I would be pissed, but at the same time I would let it go. Revenge usually has a way of backfiring and hurting you instead of the intended "victim"

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Just read details;
These two deserve each other. You can only get back at him if he had a conscience, and he doesn't. Be glad you found out what a prick he was before it got really serious. I know this sucks to be in this position, but now you know how egotistical people can be. Let it go and move on.