Girls If you were me would you leave it or do something about it????

I have been chatting to this guy for 4months now and I have always been there for him
When he was sick or upset. as well as he was in Iraq, his in the 鈥渁rmy鈥?he just came back home a few days ago. he lives in 鈥渁nother state鈥?then me. he said that he would like to take me out for 鈥渃offee鈥?and he asked for my Number and we even spoke on the phone a few days ago. and we text each other Messages. he even says Im thinking of you baby. he told me that I could call him anytime that I wanted too. anyways he said that he would come to see me and his dad since we live in another state but he is still at home with his family in another state we only just meet so I am still trying to get to know him. anyways Im going overseas in 鈥?weeks time鈥?since My grandmother is dieing and I have No choose but to go therefore I sent him a Text message Yesterday saying that I was going and that I would like to see him before I go only if that was 鈥減ossible鈥?and if he couldn鈥檛 see me then to keep in touch with me I said that I was looking forward to seeing him and I even Explained why I was going but he hasn鈥檛 said anything back yet
and I just don鈥檛 understand why. And I don鈥檛 know if I should leave it or if I should send him an Email because I don鈥檛 know if he got it? On my Phone it says that the Text MSG was sent but I just feel confused what should I do??? & From what you have read do you think he will say something or will he just leave it

Girl you better call that man!Don't you leave without talking to him and if he did get your text maybe he don't know what to say .Just don't leave without talking to him.

Call him. if he said you can call anytime and you haven't yet, use that lifeline. tell him the situation again and just be honest and frank with him. Then you decide from there.

Send a casual did you get my text the other day message.
If he does not respond, then leave it alone.

If someone is into you, they are going to get back to you.

Are you always this long winded? He may be avoiding you because you talk too much. I just read your post and I am exhausted.

I think you should just leave it. Life is too short and much too precious to waste on something like this. I am sure things will work out okay.

Well I think you should email him because of the distance and if he doesnt really care for you he'll be a jerk and not rply

email him and find out and if you do go on a date then go to a public place just in case

just call him

call him and say u bring a friend and we should all hang out and iam goin bring my girl and take the date from there

from personal experience, my internet dating has not been very well.. but going out for coffee is a great idea a very public place in case this guy tries something. Let me ask you, what kind of "family" is he visiting, does he have a wife and kids that you don't know about, most army men that I know do have wives and children. it seems to me that he is trying to play two people at the same time; however, I could be wrong. Instead of texting him why don't you call him, to make sure you give him the message. There are a multitude of possiblities if he got it and didn't respond because he just thought whatever, or maybe someone else got it and deleted it , or his phone died. whatever the case just call him and arrange a coffee date or if you don't like coffee just make sure its somewhere public in case you don't like him and he tries to pull something you can just leave.
I wish you the best of luck in your endeavours.

First of all, your family and personal life are far more important than worrying about someone whom you have never met. Do what you have to do, and don't waste your time worrying about whether he received your text or not. To be quite honest, he probably did get your text, realized he wasn't going to see you, and then moved to the next name on his list. Meet someone near your home and develop a good relationship. Online and / or distant relationships rarely work, and why would you want someone who you are apart from more than you are together?

Good luck

I know you are confused, but give him time to reply. If he doesn't, go overseas do what you need to do and move on. It is very easy to create false intimacy in chat/text situations. I'm not saying what you are feeling isn't real but some people use this scenario to get the feelings/understanding/validation they need yet avoid face to face relationships. He may be doing this. He may also be involved with someone else. If he does reply go slowly and really get to know eachother.

He may be lying about who he said he was..this happens alot, there was even a story about an austrailian girl who got tricked into falling in love with this man that wasn't even really a man, it was these cruel girls putting on a mans voice and calling her and talking to her mum and family, if the girl convinced the girl's mum and family that she was this man, and got their trust, don't you think it's pretty easy for this "guy" to be not who you think he is. Try to be a bit more safe, taking chances like that and talking to complete strangers is a silly thing to do. Just stay safe.