(Girls Only) What should I do with this Girl???

Alright I have this girl who I like a ton. We鈥檙e both in college and have known each other for over a year and a half now. I need your advice on what you thinks going on here and what I should do. Here鈥檚 the background. We started talking online about a year and a half ago. We鈥檇 talk about every other day. She is a very outgoing and friendly person & very easy to get along with. We hung out a couple times just me and her. After about 陆 yr I asked her to go out with me. She was sort of shocked, and asked for time to think about it. Later on I was stupid and basically pushed her for an answer to the point she got upset and we stopped talking. (my fault 100%). About a month later we started talking again and things got back on track and continued to improve. Fast forward to about a couple months ago. We would talk on a daily basis online almost and occasionally I would call her and talk. We would do stuff occasionally. Grab lunch etc. I was also helping her big time with her school work which I offered to do. She really appreciated the help. We at this point probably get together once every other week. But now it鈥檚 summer break and she lives a decent distance away but we already have plans to hang out a few times this summer.
About a month ago I asked her on a date online and she said in a nice way that she doesn鈥檛 want to date me. Later on I asked her if I was the type of guy she would go out with or if I just wasn鈥檛 which would be ok. She said she couldn鈥檛 say if I am or are not since she doesn鈥檛 know what she鈥檚 looking for right now. We both are fine with talking about dating stuff with each other, she really doesn鈥檛 get nervous or upset at the subject. I outright told her online how much I like her and I can tell she likes my compliments when I give them. I attempted to kiss her a couple weeks ago but missed (bad aim apparently). She just kinda backed off a little to stay out of range. I then told her that I really want to go out on date with her (in a non begging way) and she asked when, and then said ok and that she just wants to take it slow. I being a genius later told her I鈥檓 not going to hold her to that since I caught her off guard. Things are great between us now its just I want to go out with her.
From what Ive figured out it seems formally asking her on a date really doesn鈥檛 work. It seems that she is much more likely to go with it if I just aggressively make a move and kind of put her on the spot. Problem is I鈥檓 the nice type of guy that doesn鈥檛 want to put her in that position but figure it鈥檚 that or nothing. This girl is the most amazing girl I could imagine meeting and I want to treat her great. She has gone out with a couple guys but none since over a year ago when she had a guy that treated her bad. From what ive gathered I would be treating her MUCH better than her previous bfs who treated her nothing more than just average if that. She鈥檚 kind of self conscious too.
I figure I should take a more aggressive approach from now on, we鈥檝e talked about dating and how I feel about her online, but I鈥檓 more of a quiet person and have trouble saying the same stuff when we鈥檙e together. So I plan to start making more physical contact and at some point hold her hand and see how she reacts. I plan on next time we鈥檙e together in a quiet place to really tell her how I feel face to face and then maybe go in for a kiss. Do you think this is a good idea? I appreciate you reading this whole thing I just wanted to provide the background which is important.

ok sweetie, i took the time to read the paragraph becuase you seem to need advice and i didnt think many people would have the patience to read all that, but next time keep it a bit shorter

i think you should definitely go for it,if she rejects you again then you know she isnt ready for it
it seems that shes sending you mixed signals, so if she doesnt accept the kiss then id back up becuase you serisouly sound like you may get hurt
continue to hang with her, make her feel special. becuase its obvious you care alot
one of the sweetest things a guys ever done for me is left flowers on my doorstep, then texted me telling me to go outside, on the flowers was a note saying ,meet me at (the place name) .. and it went on from there
if a girl can see that you really care and want to be good to her, and arnt just using her she will appreicate it so much more

i really hope it works out for you becuase you sound like a genuine person

i hope my advice helped at least a little bit, good luck hun x

It seems to me that she only likes you as a friend.

If you do physical approach she will get distance from you.

You are better of becoming her best Friend than pushing yourself aggressively.

I had a girl like that, if she just got out of a bad relationship dont be aggressive, take it slow like she said so she can trust you, then constantly tell her how you feel about her

I don't know because i didn't take the time to read this long paragraph. Please next time make a long story short. LOL

I think you are right on the money!!! and good luck with the kiss!!!

im sorry. i couldnt read it. too long. gave me a headache. follow your heart:)

Dude you can't ask a girl out online, that's SO lame. I can tell from this passage that you have a lot to learn about girls, so just forget about this one for a while. Go date 10 other women before you even think about asking her out again. Trust me, you'll learn a lot about yourself and how relationships work, and you'll have a lot more to offer her.

Well I say take it very slowly. She is being very careful with her heart. I mean I don't blame her, she probably really like you but she seems like the kind of girl who really want to take it slow to make sure its right. Don't keep backing her into a corner because it can come off a little controlling and I'm sure you are not like that. Just let go, let flow. She might make a move and shock you one day. Be patient, it pays out in the end. When my friends were all jumping in and out of relationships, I was sitting back waiting for the one (being patient) and it paid off. I had my share of not so good relationships and when I took my time with the one guy I was patiently waiting for, he became my husband.

on my opinion its no big deal if u wunna do that. cos u both known each other for like a long time now and i think so too that u must make a move (in a nice way) and she starts to date with u now...i mean maybe she too likes you so i cant see anything wrong when u gotta do that. n oh,always be nice on her... like when she says no its no ;) try to be more romantic...thats all

I ain't a girl, but i'd thouhgt id give you my input anyway.

She messed with your head when she said she wanted to take things slow and think things over, tell her straight, she either wants to be with you or doesnt. Then come back here with what she says

Hey. I've had so many guy friends that are at the same point here. The guy wants a relationship when the girl doesn't. All I can say is, if she doesn't want to, she isn't going to. That to me is the best thing to say. If you just keep being her best friend and being there for her, and being the awesome guy it sounds like you are. Then one day you guys will work out. I know that is the roughest thing to say is to wait, but thats what i would do if i was you. I know that she might find somebody else, but you know if she doesn't see you in a way of being a boyfriend, then she might not, or she just might never change that way. I don't know what she is thinking, but maybe you should ask her about what she wants in life or what she wants from you. Yes ask her to go talk, but if you can't tell her face to face what you feel, how are you going to date this chick? I wouldn't quite make the kiss move until she is ready, and ask isn't a bad way to go either.

Hope everything works out!
:)