I've just finished a series of counselling sessions but now feel very down after a confrontation with mum.

My mother seems unable to express any kind of positive feeling for me and constantly uses put downs and belittling comments in her normal speech to me. I have tried to ask her about this several times but she takes offence and shouts and calls me all the names under the sun. After the counselling I was feeling quite positive and looking forward to getting on with life and maybe having a chance to enjoy it. I have felt quite down now for about a week since my mum got annoyed with me and threw me out for disagreeing with her, making a joke and then standing up to her when she became aggressive. I can't seem to pull my self up and have been crying a lot. I don't really have anyone who I feel comfortable talking to. My aunty just says that my mum doesn't seem to be able to help being the way she is and that she doesn't mean what she says and that she has a heart of gold and would do anything for anyone. What can I do to feel better and move on?

Obviously the counselling worked for you as you felt positive. There is nothing you can do about other people and how they act. Unfortunately your mother doesnt seem able to be supportive of you, as your Aunt has already suggested. There is nothing you can do about the way your mother is and IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT that she is that way.

You will have to learn this and then once you have accepted it, you will be much happier. Be strong and carry on. Best wishes

The name is familiarisation. The Bible says that the Prophet can't perform a miracle at home, because nobody takes him seriously.

There is just one thing to do: To leave the nest. That's natural in both: Rational and irrational animals. We know that our parents love us, but when that time comes, we must
go. Unless we are endowed with a very thick
skin to suffer all kinds of darts without going through.

Its very hard when you come home feeling positive and your mum brings you down. I think that you need to distance yourself from her and try and avoid any confrontation with her. Maybe your mum has issues that she needs to deal with and she just takes it out on you without realising the damage she is doing. Just keep conversations to a minimum and leave the room if you feel she is going to start shouting at you. If you have to agree with her to avoid an argument then I would do this and just keep working on getting yourself better. Good luck

Put some space between you and your mother by hanging out more with friends and maybe staying over at theirs sometimes if you can.
You have to live your own life and be happy and not let one person (even though it's your mum) ruin yours.
She shouldn't be acting this way, she needs the counselling.
Nothing you can say or do will change unless your mum makes the effort to change herself.
It's sad but this is the reality of the situation, and maybe she will realise what she's doing the more time you spend apart